The “unknown” is scary. And there is SO
MUCH unknown about moving on to the next phase. And even MORE unknown surrounding a service academy. Have her think about her “why”. Why did she apply? Maybe jot down some thoughts about it.
Something to keep in mind…other schools social media have ‘unhappy’ posts. People complain. I’ve seen it at my other sons regular college. There are certainly trade offs. As with all things. But people tend to ‘complain’ more than celebrate as it’s the cool thing to do.
Without a DOUBT….she will make her ‘bestest’ friends ever at a SA, bc that’s part of the experience…learning to lean on your mates, in ways that doesn’t happen at regular college. But that is hard to imagine at this point!
Lastly, she can walk away up to the beginning of her 2/C year. What’s she got to loose?? I have two there. One almost did leave (circumstances surrounding early Covid…), but he stuck it out. And learned so much about his resiliency. And is now excelling and living his best life. Couldn’t imagine himself anywhere else. But he had to give it all a chance. Give himself a chance.
Part of all of this is probably normal nerves. I always said ‘you can quit/leave, but not today’. Bc tomorrow, after a good nights sleep, is always brighter. So my mom advice would be to listen. Ask her if she wants to vent, or if she wants your advice. Encourage her to stop listening to other people. Drop the social media sites (bc those are there for “likes”, and the more startling the post? The more likes). Give it all a rest. And forge forward.
This is truly the most scary, and rewarding, all at the same time, roller coaster
she and you will ever ride!! Hang on!!