Okay, follow up questions...
DD got sick at the end of NASS (fever, headache, can't really breathe), and has rolled into SLE with whatever she caught @NASS. She tried to talk to her new squad leader at SLE to opt out of taking the CFA later today (since she'll most certainly do much worse), and that was a nonstarter.
Apparently the squad leaders at SLE conduct interviews that are part of the record for the WP application process, so she needs to step carefully. She's going to do terribly on the CFA today, but I don't think she can get out of it--if there's a tactful way to navigate out of taking that CFA today, please lmk! Will her upcoming terrible SLE CFA scores go to USNA? She can't do anything about todays bad upcoming CFA score while at SLE, and it won't help her application at WP, but hoping that those scores won't go to USNA.
More broadly, is this a WP vs USNA cultural difference? Or is this just a luck of the draw, squad leader personality thing? DD liked her squad leader (and company) at NASS/USNA, who tended to have a more thoughtful approach. But I wonder if that was the exception rather than the rule. DD did mention that NASS openly felt like a recruitment vehicle. As a small example the folks running the camp always used the phrase, "When you come here..." (not "If you come here"), and there were a number of kids in her squad who took the phrase at face value. DD thought it was all very positive and encouraging, but that NASS verged into the unrealistic at times with that type of across the board messaging.
I told her that the SLE/WP (don't care that you're sick and already have a CFA score and thus this can only be negative for you, you're taking the CFA today) attitude is probably more real world realistic at both institutions, and to be ready for it.
On the other hand, I also told her that if the overall culture and insitutional attitude felt significantly different, to stick a pin in that for later consideration. She's not loving SLE and WP so far, and wondered if this might actually point to a actual real difference between the institutional cultures?
We are not a military family so would love to hear from those much more experienced.