SecondTime
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I just had an interesting exchange with a BGO whose son is a graduate. She suggested the Academy is not a place she would wish for her daughter.
Her issues had to do with:
1. Difficulties of being a woman at the Academy; having to be on the defensive much of the time. There are simply fewer femals at teh Academy and some of the young men [boys, really] haven't quite develope an appropriate level of respect for females.
2. Difficulties of serving in the fleet. See above, but, at least, you are an officer and command some respect. But, females sometimes cause their own issues. See Navy Times Article about junior officer who swam topless http://www.navytimes.com/news/2012/04/navy-bahrain-bash-commodore-david-geisler-040812w/ at parties she hosted. [But also note that men are plenty stupid also; even if they are Senior Officers.]
3. Opportunities for bonding [at least as occurs among men] are fewer. This extends to fleet opportunities where there are fewer opportunities to find suitable roommates.
4. Biological clock issues; even if the young lady comes out the other end at age 27, the opportunities for "momdom" are starting to narrow.
5. Relational clock issue; where do young people meet their future spouses? at school. It is difficult to start/maintain a dating relationship at the Academy for sure and even later in the fleet.
Considering that few RECENT grads haunt these pages [really, does it do any good to talk about how it used to be twenty years ago? Whihc is the equivalent of the stone-age to an eighteen year old.]
I wonder if any MOMS of FEMALE mids can comment? How is your daughter doing? What challenges is she facing? How is your MID doing at the Academy?
Any RECENT fleet experiences? [Say, in the last five to eight years?]
Have the opportunities been as your daughter expected when she was a bright-eyed plebe?
Her issues had to do with:
1. Difficulties of being a woman at the Academy; having to be on the defensive much of the time. There are simply fewer femals at teh Academy and some of the young men [boys, really] haven't quite develope an appropriate level of respect for females.
2. Difficulties of serving in the fleet. See above, but, at least, you are an officer and command some respect. But, females sometimes cause their own issues. See Navy Times Article about junior officer who swam topless http://www.navytimes.com/news/2012/04/navy-bahrain-bash-commodore-david-geisler-040812w/ at parties she hosted. [But also note that men are plenty stupid also; even if they are Senior Officers.]
3. Opportunities for bonding [at least as occurs among men] are fewer. This extends to fleet opportunities where there are fewer opportunities to find suitable roommates.
4. Biological clock issues; even if the young lady comes out the other end at age 27, the opportunities for "momdom" are starting to narrow.
5. Relational clock issue; where do young people meet their future spouses? at school. It is difficult to start/maintain a dating relationship at the Academy for sure and even later in the fleet.
Considering that few RECENT grads haunt these pages [really, does it do any good to talk about how it used to be twenty years ago? Whihc is the equivalent of the stone-age to an eighteen year old.]
I wonder if any MOMS of FEMALE mids can comment? How is your daughter doing? What challenges is she facing? How is your MID doing at the Academy?
Any RECENT fleet experiences? [Say, in the last five to eight years?]
Have the opportunities been as your daughter expected when she was a bright-eyed plebe?
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