My oldest spent a "gap" year abroad....that was very hard! This will seem like a cake walk compared to that! I envy the parents who live closer to the academies. Wasn't it Grant's mom who moved to Highland Falls to be near her son? Mine would kill me!
MIDNDAD, I loved the mother's email! I find myself with many of in the same feelings she expresses. For me, I have really been working on letting my daughter make ALL of her own choices as of late. She has been doing a pretty good job for a 17 yr old going on 18 but there have been some things that have disappointed me too. It's all about letting them grow up and start to live their own lives. It is very difficult to do this but I realize that when I say goodbye to her on I-day, my job is radically shifted. I really can't teach her too many things more, only help to influence her with my guidance when she wants it.
Also, I too am trying to cherish the time we have as a family with her around because I am aware that our family make up will be forever changed since she is the oldest of my daughters. My other children are having a hard time with all the attention my oldest is getting and I have heard that XXXX is my favoirte and that everybody knows it. This is so hard. I try to explain to the other sibs that she is just at a different place in her life that requires more attention right now. I also assure them that I will do the same for them too when their time comes. I would love to hear any advice other parents have on dealing with the same issues.
Are you taking your whole family to I-Day? If you do the siblings will see and feel the gravity of the event that that day represents. That final hour to say goodbye on Stribling walk will affect everyone. Then you go home and they along with you will feel the absense of that presence in your house. It's just a natural progression to deal with that new reality for your family still at home with you. It takes a while but you all adjust.
Yes, I am taking the whole family. We live in the Midwest and I thought it would be fun to make a road trip of it (not to mention I don't have the funds to fly us all nor anybody to watch the other kids if just my daughter and I went).
I'm hoping my tax rebate will arrive before June 27th (departure day) to help with the whole adventure! I can't tell you how glad I am about not needing to pay the deposit at USNA, I'm not sure where that would have come from. Anyway, I got out a map the other day and am trying to find a great place to stop about halfway there, maybe w/ an amusement park, IDK. Then the next day I want to drive to DC and spend at least a day there. None of my daughters have been there. From there I want to arrive at USNA on July 1st to chill out before the big day.
My other teenagers have expressed interest in visiting DC and I'm hoping that they'll also get excited for their sister and about seeing USNA too. The amusement park is more for the 9 and 4 year olds. It's hard to say, the whole sibling rivalry thing, especially since I'm a single parent. My attention is spread way too thin most of the time! I'm pretty sure there will be some teary eyes since we are all tenderhearted females (well, some more than others). But I'm guessing that the other teenagers will feel the importance of the event once they see all the other midshipmen, their families and experience the whole ceremony.
3. Finishing High School - You can't fail a major course but at this point the Academy does not care about your last quarter or semester of grades in high school. Go into cruise mode if you already have not done so. I'm suggesting this because once AC year starts you will be under intense academic pressure like you have never seen. Take an academic break now while you can.
Actually it was Douglas MacArthur's mother who did that. In my opinion this is taking the "mothering" instinct too far.
I too envy those that live close to the academy their child is attending.
And at least at a service academy you KNOW your kid isn't getting into all sorts of trouble! Rest a little easier knowing that!