I am but a lowly helicopter pilot in a different service, but I'll try to answer.
No aviator position is "family friendly." Those two things are simply at odds with one another and there's not a ton to be done about it.
If you're interested in starting a family right away, do not become a pilot. Your time in the squadron is limited, and being pregnant/having a newborn means you are not flying, which means you are not getting the quals you need, etc etc. I know of one female pilot (also H-1s) who managed to have a couple kids in her fleet tour and still get enough quals for credibility, but it's tough.
Even if you just have a -2 husband/boyfriend/partner, you will spend a lot of time away from them. Even without deploying, I probably spent about 3 months away from home in my first year in the squadron doing various detachments, exercises, and cross countries. Deployment and workups are, obviously, their own very stressful beast.
While at home, I spend normally 12 hours a day away from home between my ground job and flying. If I'm on the night train, that may mean I don't get home from work until 0200-0300. On a normal day I often won't get home until 1830-1900. Sometimes I will have to work weekends, whether for duty or to flight plan for something coming up.
All of this just means that you will have to be deliberate with how you spend your off time and how you budget time with friends and family.
It's all about priorities. For me, I don't want to make the Marine Corps a career but while I'm here I want to be here, progress as much as I can, and be as good as I can be. I've got time for kids and the other jazz later. If you're fine with not progressing that far as a pilot and just want to bro out and wear a flight suit (no shame, plenty of guys want that life), that's an option too.
Again, not a fighter pilot, but I'm in a very male-dominated "meat-eating" community and am the only female in my squadron. 90% of the time it's fine. I've had some "yellow light" sexual harassment incidents and one definite "red light." The yellow light stuff I was able to handle informally. The red light resulted in an investigation where I had the full support of my command and (more importantly) my peers and other pilots.
I would say that there is a negative stigma against females in the Marine Corps at least, but it's not that hard to beat. Be good at your job, better than your peers if you can, and work hard and no one will give you that hard of a time.