Great thoughts and perspectives from everyone, and for refining what I was trying to convey.
@2026 , I often bookmark passages that speak to me. It's easier than trying to search on the poster or the entire thread.
@Gobsmacked , no, my definition of selfish is not about "every man for himself". I do like the shock of the word, though! Great perspective that my strong post could be misinterpreted!
Combining everyone's thoughts:
Remove extraneous, non-productive activity and dead-end relationships from your path in order to focus on what USAFA expects of you, which includes being a great teammate, squadron member, all around servant leader AND be the best you can be. You get ranked with academic, military, and athletic grade AND by squadron. It's not about being selfless - that's expected, the minimum standard, as you perform military and leadership duties at USAFA. You need to budget time and emotional energy for that - in addition to your own studies, athletics, healthy relationships, and simply having fun, too.
My DD is excelling in all 3! Her overall order of merit is in the top 10% so it's a really nice first world problem to strive for DG! As a PEER she has been really busy with the other PEERS and leadership on a very serious issue she can't talk about - but said it was taking a whole lot of time. It was on the foundation of being "selfish" - taking care of academics and athletics and not whirling around with manufactured, unnecessary, non-productive drama - that has freed her time for this pivotal role that profoundly affect several other Cadet's lives. Emotionally draining, first time experience for her and other PEERs, but if not the PEERS, then who?
Over winter break we discussed the possibility of graduate school/national scholarships. Again, she will need to be selfish and budget her time for essays/applications/time with advisors, etc on top of all she is already doing. 47 months goes SO FAST, 1/2 way through I can hardly believe it!
So we've highjacked this thread a bit, so back to our OPs issue/theme: Again, ask for an extension and follow through if it's given. Can't stress enough that you will always have lots thrown at you. Some by USAFA model design, and some of a personal nature.