Mom nerves!! DODMERB and nominations !!

Hockey10 said:
To the nervous mother from a father who has been where you are now. Believe it when I say your DD can feel your anxiety across town. You must realize that this is about her, not you. The SA's don't care a bit about you unless you're a foreign agent. Not if you're a 4 star or Bernie Madoff's cell mate. You cannot help the process, only hinder it. And guess again if you think the anxiety will lessen if she receives an appointment. Will she get hurt climbing the rope or firing a 50 caliber machine gun? How much sleep does she get? She's a genius; how did she get a C? Where are they sending her? I could go on. For everyone's health and well being, get off this train. This MUST be her journey. Worry about Harvard and Stanford. If she does go, there will be parents' groups and this site to vent to and both are gifts from above.
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Thank you! I do appreciate the insight. I am already grateful for this group. This is definitely a unique process and I am thankful to have found people who are able to relate and support. I certainly don’t mean in any way to try and make this journey about me. If I had my way, she’d stay within driving distance from me forever! 😂 but I can also see how no matter how hard I try to hide it, she can sense my feelings. We’re very close!! But I am truly trying so hard!
And I am sure you’re right about the anxiety not lessening. I already saw the bunk beds and wondered if she ends up there and on the top bunk, what if she falls off in the middle of the night 😂🤷🏻‍♀️...and that’s probably the LEAST of the concerns 😆 What’s wrong with me?!
 
HopefulArmyMom2025 said:
Thank you! I do appreciate the insight. I am already grateful for this group. This is definitely a unique process and I am thankful to have found people who are able to relate and support. I certainly don’t mean in any way to try and make this journey about me. If I had my way, she’d stay within driving distance from me forever! 😂 but I can also see how no matter how hard I try to hide it, she can sense my feelings. We’re very close!! But I am truly trying so hard!
And I am sure you’re right about the anxiety not lessening. I already saw the bunk beds and wondered if she ends up there and on the top bunk, what if she falls off in the middle of the night 😂🤷🏻‍♀️...and that’s probably the LEAST of the concerns 😆 What’s wrong with me?!
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If you dig hard enough, you’ll find variations of this posted several times: “You taught them to fly. Now sit back and watch them soar, but also stumble and fall, but pick themselves up and soar again.”

This is a time for growth and personal development for you too, and it’s another door to open as you close others. As the active child-rearing time wraps up, you are gloriously free to invest that time in all kinds of new things, pursuits, challenges, activities.
 
Multiple +s to @Capt MJ

What’s wrong with you? Nothing. You’re a Mom and a parent with all that it entails.

I find this poem On Children by Kahlil Gibran lends some perspective:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Best of luck to you and the family as the journey continues. Now, get on over to the bacon and cocktail threads!
 
Does anyone know who to ask for the nomination? Both senators and representative, but who else?Also, you only need 1/3 right?
 
Mangito said:
Does anyone know who to ask for the nomination? Both senators and representative, but who else?Also, you only need 1/3 right?
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Nominations FAQ

Below are answers to many Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) re the nomination process. Thanks to USNABGO08 for assistance. As always, we've made every effort to be accurate but the below has not been reviewed or approved by any SA or MOC contact. NOTE: Nominations are a fairly complex...
www.serviceacademyforums.com

Go to the forums tab and look for nominations. There threads there that answer this. The above link is a good start from there.
 
WT Door said:
Multiple +s to @Capt MJ

What’s wrong with you? Nothing. You’re a Mom and a parent with all that it entails.

I find this poem On Children by Kahlil Gibran lends some perspective:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Best of luck to you and the family as the journey continues. Now, get on over to the bacon and cocktail threads!
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I love this. Thank you ❤️!!
I’m definitely going to have to head over to the bacon and cocktail threads 😆😂
 
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