Mom nerves!! DODMERB and nominations !!

HopefulArmyMom2025 said:
Admin - may I respectfully request for deletion of this thread? Thanks!
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The mods are not likely to delete the thread, as there is nothing that breaks the rules, and it is instructive to new readers. They occasionally move or merge threads when it makes sense to do so.
 
kinnem said:
He may see it here but his focus is on monitoring DODMERB. If I wanted to be sure he,saw it, I would post it there. That's just me though.
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LOL I meant she was in the right place at the SA forums in general. I overlook the wrong forum issues ... mods take care of that fairly well. And so does Mr. Mullen. :)
 
I found it. I came. I conquered

But it is more helpful when folks post DoDMERB isssues under the DoDMERB thread, instead of having to play Insoector Clouseau :band:
 
Nervous Mom, no one knows who you are or where you are from or who your daughter is...except maybe Mr. Mullen, who is a true professional.
So, be nervous about something else but try to remember the process is a marathon, not a sprint.
Your girl has a LOT of time until around the 1st of May. Try not to inflict your nerves onto her--hard as a parent esp if she is doing her schooling this year via distance learning.
Good luck to your girl.
 
MullenLE said:
I found it. I came. I conquered

But it is more helpful when folks post DoDMERB isssues under the DoDMERB thread, instead of having to play Insoector Clouseau :band:
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First timers are the worst 😂🤣 I learned things today! 😁 You’re awesome. thanks for all you do!
 
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DrMom said:
Nervous Mom, no one knows who you are or where you are from or who your daughter is...except maybe Mr. Mullen, who is a true professional.
So, be nervous about something else but try to remember the process is a marathon, not a sprint.
Your girl has a LOT of time until around the 1st of May. Try not to inflict your nerves onto her--hard as a parent esp if she is doing her schooling this year via distance learning.
Good luck to your girl.
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I’d like to genuinely thank you for your advice and insight. Such a heartfelt message. I am doing everything I can to keep all of my nerves and fears buried wayyy down. She doesn’t know I’m concerned about this stuff, I keep telling her not to worry so I am not even sure if she is as as worried as I am. She’s mentioned it a few times so I didn’t see the harm in trying to find someone else who had been there before. I’d have to imagine it’s not terribly uncommon.

You’re right, it’s already a challenging year in more ways than one. I came to this forum to find people who can relate to me, as nobody I know has ever gone through this process and they definitely don’t seem to understand. Truth is, no matter what her path is, SA or otherwise, I’m going to be completely lost without her. Yet another thing I don’t let her see because only my own selfishness would encourage her to do anything other than to use her big, beautiful wings and for me to watch how high she soars.

I truly appreciate you taking the time to reply, quite comforting to know there are people out there who “get it” and care. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
 
HopefulArmyMom2025 said:
I’d like to genuinely thank you for your advice and insight. Such a heartfelt message. I am doing everything I can to keep all of my nerves and fears buried way down. She doesn’t know I’m concerned about this stuff, I keep telling her not to worry so I am not even sure if she is as worried as I am. She’s mentioned it a few times so I didn’t see the harm in trying to find someone else who had been there before. I’d have to imagine it’s not terribly uncommon.

You’re right, it’s already a challenging year in more ways than one. I came to this forum to find people who can relate to me, as nobody I know has ever gone through this process and they definitely don’t seem to understand. Truth is, no matter what her path is, SA or otherwise, I’m going to be completely lost without her. Yet another thing I don’t let her see because only my own selfishness would encourage her to do anything other than to use her big, beautiful wings and for me to watch how high she soars.

I truly appreciate you taking the time to reply, quite comforting to know there are people out there who “get it” and care. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
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You are definitely in the right place. I don't think I would have made it sanely through the process of our son applying had it not been for the forum and all of the great advice and information. Navigating this maze is like running an obstacle course in the dark, while blindfolded and one hand tied behind your back, with no end in sight. If you weren't nervous, or anxious I would think you might want to check for a pulse.

We know how much they have worked for this and how much it means to them to achieve their goal. That's why it makes us nervous. We don't want it for ourselves, never did. We want to see them achieve their dreams and we are happy to stand in the background and watch and assist when needed. Last year, I also buried my nerves and tried to be positive, yet realistic during the whole process.

Then, when the nominations, then appointments came, we celebrated, we could not have been more proud of him. But secretly, just a bit, I also was sad knowing our time together would be seriously limited for the foreseeable future. Thanks to technology, we see each other via facetime, and I get texts and pictures of his daily life. It is not as hard as I thought it would be, and I think that is because I am so happy to have him where he is meant to be, where he worked to earn a seat and where he will grow exponentially into a stronger, more intelligent young man. Hang in there, mom, and I agree with @A1Janitor, an adult beverage still saves my sanity.
 
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To the nervous mother from a father who has been where you are now. Believe it when I say your DD can feel your anxiety across town. You must realize that this is about her, not you. The SA's don't care a bit about you unless you're a foreign agent. Not if you're a 4 star or Bernie Madoff's cell mate. You cannot help the process, only hinder it. And guess again if you think the anxiety will lessen if she receives an appointment. Will she get hurt climbing the rope or firing a 50 caliber machine gun? How much sleep does she get? She's a genius; how did she get a C? Where are they sending her? I could go on. For everyone's health and well being, get off this train. This MUST be her journey. Worry about Harvard and Stanford. If she does go, there will be parents' groups and this site to vent to and both are gifts from above.
 
Heatherg21 said:
You are definitely in the right place. I don't think I would have made it sanely through the process of our son applying had it not been for the forum and all of the great advice and information. Navigating this maze is like running an obstacle course in the dark, while blindfolded and one hand tied behind your back, with no end in sight. If you weren't nervous, or anxious I would think you might want to check for a pulse.

We know how much they have worked for this and how much it means to them to achieve their goal. That's why it makes us nervous. We don't want it for ourselves, never did. We want to see them achieve their dreams and we are happy to stand in the background and watch and assist when needed. Last year, I also buried my nerves and tried to be positive, yet realistic during the whole process.

Then, when the nominations, then appointments came, we celebrated, we could not have been more proud of him. But secretly, just a bit, I also was sad knowing our time together would be seriously limited for the foreseeable future. Thanks to technology, we see each other via facetime, and I get texts and pictures of his daily life. It is not as hard as I thought it would be, and I think that is because I am so happy to have him where he is meant to be, where he worked to earn a seat and where he will grow exponentially into a stronger, more intelligent young man. Hang in there, mom, and I agree with @A1Janitor, an adult beverage still saves my sanity.
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Thank you so much ❤️
 
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