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To make rank in the military you will need to get your Master degree, for the AF most officers will get that out of the way as an O3. Bullet (DH) had his completed by the time he had 5 yrs in. Most officers do this on base/post/online at the base educational office after their work day
jt123 is correct you want to work on life after the military while you are in the military, but doesn't have to be "other" activities as in outside of work. Many times it will include the jobs you do as an officer on AD. IE Bullet, an AFROTC grad was an F15E WSO, he was never going to be a busdriver in the sky (airline pilot) since he was a WSO, so for his ADAF career he worked on becoming the GO TO guy for weapons. Fliers do not fly 5 days a week, 2x is a good week, the other days they have an"office" job, such as weapons, scheduling, training, life support, sim instructor, etc. Bullet worked up the ladder in weapons, including going to the dreaded Pentagon for a weapons job (joint assignment ---JROC).
~ FFWD 15 months before eligibility for retirement. His old Pentagon boss had retired, was now a defense contractor working on the F35, and knew he was near retirement. He offered him a job that day, knowing he could not start for 15 months. Bullet hit the button at the 1st chance he could (1 yr before he could leave). He interviewed with 2 companies (1 for the 35 program and 1 for the 22), offered jobs for both 4 months prior to retirement. The big thing here to realize is both of those airframes are single seat (pilot only), but because of his weapons experience they selected him, a WSO over any pilot.
When posters say other activities, to me that is in part of what you need to do, you need to become that GO TO person by specializing in something within your career field.
~ Another example. To make rank you will need PME. That is military education programs, such as CGSC at Leavenworth or ACSC for the AF at Maxwell. Bullet was a fortunate one, he was selected to attend CGSC in residence as an AF officer, only 60 in the AF for the yr. The AF officers (O4) selected to do this had 2 things in common, regardless of their career field.
~~ 1. They all had their Master degrees completed. Master degree is masked (blind), iows the selection board for making O4 did not know if they had one or not, BUT for the PME in residence selection board it is not masked, thus they knew if these officers had completed their master.
~~ 2. They had all done ACSC by correspondence or seminar prior to meeting the PME selection board.
Just saying had Bullet never got his Master degree at night on base (Bases have satellite colleges like Embry Riddle, U of MD, Webster, etc) as a young O3, plus ACSC via correspondence as he moved up the ladder in the Weapons shop, he probably would have never went to CGSC and end up at Pentagon. The Pentagon in the AF is the dreaded assignment, many fliers would rather do a yr remote in Korea over the Puzzle Palace, but that assignment opened up the doors to his 2nd career.
~FYI: When he got his Master degree, we had 2 children under 4, and I was pregnant with our 3rd. He was jumping out of perfectly good airplanes with the 82nd AB. We made it work. If he was taking classes that night, or doing a night jump than we met for lunch knowing he wouldn't be home for dinner.
Finally, you stated academies, as in plural. I am just speaking as a spouse of a now retired AF officer (O5) and a Mom of an O3 ADAF pilot. I would take a step back and really look into the life of each branch and the career field. The AF is jokingly called the Prima Donna/corporate/bankers branch. Duty day is 8-4 if not flying...when you are young and not deployed. They don't get up for a 10 mile rucksack run at 5:30 a.m....PT training for them is the squadron golf outing and carrying their clubs.
I would end my novella by also saying that yes, indeed, graduating from any SA creates an incredible network for after AD life, BUT it is what you do when you are AD that will matter more. As stated earlier, Bullet was an AFROTC grad., however, for him and my DS now serving, their career fields are very small. You will keep meeting up with the same people somewhere along your career. Think about it. RPA pilot, well there are only 3 or 4 places (Pentagon included) that they will station you at. Nuclear Subs in the Navy? Same deal...how many dolphins do you think there are? Rangers in the Army? Missileers in the AF? Helos? Cyber in any branch?
OBTW before ending this novella. I DO agree with your Mother about assimilating after the military, but she will not like my answer. Bullet and I had problems assimilating back to the civilian world after 21 yrs ADAF. Our problem was for 21 yrs we had a social circle/family that "got" the life. Weekends and holidays were with our AF family. Even when you live off base/post most members live in certain neighborhoods (Eagle River in AK is called base housing of the north for Elmendorf because so many that buy/rent live in Eagle River).
~ Our DS got married in 14. His wife is also an AF brat. The flower girl was the granddaughter of his babysitter and best friend (AF friends for 20 yrs). His groomsmen were AFROTC. He is assigned to Dyess. Fencers DS and my DS see each other frequently for dinner at each other's home for dinner.
~ DS and DIL just had our 1st grandbaby. The spouses in the squadron made sure that meals were delivered to their home for the first week after the birth.
Our DS will be at least 33 before he leaves the AF. He and his wife (DIL) have never known life as a civilian. DS waived those little American flags on the runway when Daddy returned after 4-6 months deployment. Yet, there he is now doing the same thing his Dad did knowing full well the hardship on his own wife and child. There she (DIL) supporting him knowing how it felt for herself as a child.
~ RAND did a study about military brats and the percentage that join. Guess what the result was? Compared to the civilian world, there was a higher percentage that were brats!
~~ One can say it is an assimilation problem, or 1 can say that they saw the amazing opportunities of seeing the world offered that they wanted to keep their lifestyle going.
~~~ FYI: DS went to UPT at Del Rio aka AF slang...HELL Rio. Followed onto Abilene Tx.
Our DD went to VT, and is a teacher. She fought to get a DoD teaching slot in Europe to no avail. So, she too wanted to continue on seeing the world with a tie to the military. She lives 3 hrs away.
There are negatives, I will not lie. Every year at this time, Bullet comes home to see me baking Xmas cookies and crying to the song, I'll be home for Xmas. JMPO, but it is hard on your folks, and I think part of it is more about being so far away or maybe facing life/death danger than life after your military career.
~ You can easily find out by saying something on the level of: Mom, do you actually think that Raytheon. Rand. L3Comm, SAIC, BAH, Lockheed, etc will choose someone with NO military experience at the age of 26 (when you can walk) over someone that has experience. How about GS?
Just saying as a Mom it maybe more about you not living nearby than you know. Just maybe it is about you not being home for holiday dinners, and family celebrations. Or maybe it is about her fear for your life. I get it. Truly, I do. I am fortunate, I lived a life where my DH, and now my DS, state/d I can't believe they pay me to do this, I would do it for free. That is what makes me smile through my tears when I hear that song.
Talk to her. Tell her as a young adult, I need you to support me. If you don't I will always carry that burden of your (her) concerns. It will always be a thorn in our/your relationship. You will be required to step up as an adult, not a teenager in July/Aug/Sept., be it an SA or ROTC cadet.
Trust this one thing...she will support and brag about your decision. Life after the academy on a good day right now is a decade away.