Pima
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I am posting this because recently there were several threads about military women and getting pregnant. Unfortunately, this article shows that it can also be a personal issue
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/01/nyregion/01guard.html?_r=1&hp
So sad for the couple and the child. Part of me gets the father, because at that young of an age her mother is now a stranger, but the other part of me feels like this is a kidnapping that used the courts to separate the 2. I also feel for the mother because she signs on with the guard to give a better life, help with the bills, and even though they had an agreement worked out through the military, she will not have to go deeper in debt to pay for an attorney.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/01/nyregion/01guard.html?_r=1&hp
since her return, Mr. Llares has allowed Ms. Mendoza only a few brief visits with Elizabeth. Despite a written family care plan they had worked out with military officials outlining shared custody upon her return, Mr. Llares now believes it is too disruptive for the baby to spend more than a few hours at a time with “a mother she doesn’t really know or recognize that well,” said his lawyer, Amy Lefkowitz.
After months of arguments, an exchange of legal papers and a restraining order, Specialist Mendoza and Mr. Llares each are demanding full custody of Elizabeth, and are scheduled to appear at a court proceeding Tuesday to determine her fate....“I wanted Elizabeth to grow up and be proud that her mother had served her country,” said Specialist Mendoza, who is attending Montclair State University in Montclair, N.J., to be a math teacher. “And we needed the health care and the military benefits and the help paying for my school.”
So sad for the couple and the child. Part of me gets the father, because at that young of an age her mother is now a stranger, but the other part of me feels like this is a kidnapping that used the courts to separate the 2. I also feel for the mother because she signs on with the guard to give a better life, help with the bills, and even though they had an agreement worked out through the military, she will not have to go deeper in debt to pay for an attorney.
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