Just_A_Mom
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LOLFinally, unless I missed a class in sex ed, if a woman gets pregnant on a boat or a deployment in the sand box there was a man...if not notify the VATICAN.
LOLFinally, unless I missed a class in sex ed, if a woman gets pregnant on a boat or a deployment in the sand box there was a man...if not notify the VATICAN.
My understanding is that everyone in the military with dependents must file a family plan regardless of if/when they will be deployed.
Here is a question for you:
Should the judge refuse to grant her custody of her daughter ONLY because of the POSSIBILITY she might deploy again?
Your first sentence answered the question.
She did have full custody prior to deploying but after she returned the baby's father refused to let her see the child much less have joint physical custody.
The law should allow for her to resume full custody and if the father chooses he can then sue for full or partial custody
Just my gut feeling - the father never raised
My question still is, should SpecMendoza be retained by the military when she has stated she will not deploy with her unit if mobilized. For the sake of her daughter.
This question will not be addressed due to the fact an answer will not fit into the prestructured discussions of most.
........ a WOMAN ......entrusting her parental rights to the system and then serving our NATION in a combat zone.
Sorry dude....Im not buying your bark.
More:She had raised her daughter for six years following the divorce, handled the shuttling to soccer practice and cheerleading, made sure schoolwork was done. Hardly a day went by when the two weren't together. Then Lt. Eva Crouch was mobilized with the Kentucky National Guard, and Sara went to stay with Dad.
A year and a half later, her assignment up, Crouch pulled into her driveway with one thing in mind - bringing home the little girl who shared her smile and blue eyes. She dialed her ex and said she'd be there the next day to pick Sara up, but his response sent her reeling.
"Not without a court order you won't."
Within a month, a judge would decide that Sara should stay with her dad. It was, he said, in "the best interests of the child."
What happened? Crouch was the legal residential caretaker; this was only supposed to be temporary. What had changed? She wasn't a drug addict, or an alcoholic, or an abusive mother.
Her only misstep, it seems, was answering the call to serve her country.
A federal law called the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act is meant to protect them by staying civil court actions and administrative proceedings during military activation. They can't be evicted. Creditors can't seize their property. Civilian health benefits, if suspended during deployment, must be reinstated.
And yet servicemembers' children can be - and are being - taken from them after they are deployed.
Some family court judges say that determining what's best for a child in a custody case is simply not comparable to deciding civil property disputes and the like; they have ruled that family law trumps the federal law protecting servicemembers. And so, in many cases when a soldier deploys, the ex-spouse seeks custody, and temporary changes become lasting.
Even some supporters of the federal law say it should be changed - that soldiers should be assured that they can regain custody of children after they return.
"Now, they've got a great argument when Johnny comes marching home that the child should remain where they are, even though it was a temporary order," says Lt. Col. Steve Elliott, a judge advocate with the Oklahoma National Guard, referring to non-deployed parents.
Maybe if daddy deareast had spoken to his child about her mother while the mother was deployed, displayed pictures in the child's room and taught the daughter to be proud of her mother, then the child would have known who her mother was when she walked in the room. It was pure selfishness on the part of the father and his family. His parents should be ashamed of themselves for supporting their son in his efforts to sever his daughter's relationship with her mother.
I had forgotten. My dad had a tape recorder too. We used to make tapes and send them back and forth. Wow, this is stirrin' the memory bank.occasionally got this tape reel in the mail and played it and listened to dad tell a bedtime story