Makes you wonder how he treated his kids and athletes as well.
When I see these incidents, it makes me wonder how long it’s been going on inside the marriage. I’m glad she found the emotional strength to call police, not only for herself but for their child, who was home at the time. Alcohol overuse + anger issues + no internal boundaries about physical/verbal abuse = never good.
He could have been known as a “great guy” around everyone else, but inside his own home, showed the ugly side. I’ve known of many like that through observing domestic violence in Navy families. I fired my Command Master Chief for a domestic violence incident, broke his wife’s fingers with an iron skillet. The truth finally came out, and I took action to remove him from the CMC role. Expert at masking the rage and the drinking but explosive at home. The coach had been at Navy awhile. If he’d been a screamer at the mids, it would have been noticed.
I have a classmate/companymate who had these tendencies. Other friends in common were in flight school with him and lived nearby and saw the signs. This may have been why that marriage soon ended. He did serve a full career (30 yrs) and held a very (VERY) high profile position so perhaps he cleaned up his act but he was certainly acting out back in the day.
And to be fair - domestic violence happens to men, as well. It’s just not as widely reported. I had a male sailor who was always “running into doors” or falling down steps. Something clicked in my mind when he showed up in the ER with a broken jaw. I asked my CMC to quietly take him for a walk over to see a favorite chaplain I knew. The CMC had also been starting to have a gut feeling. The sailor was indeed in regular altercations with his wife whom he declined to hit in return; he wouldn’t leave the house and leave the children with her in that mode. Everyone knew her as a wonderful mom, but she had severe rage issues. We got the appropriate people involved. I still think about how long he had been enduring that treatment, and hope to this day his kids grew up okay and he found a kinder partner.
Thank you for sharing this. There is not enough support out there for male DV victims, and rarely is it recognized. Sadly, like the sailor you mentioned, many endure it for the sake of the children. Also prominent, as others mentioned, are issues with alcohol or other substances. I feel for the coach's family and hope they all get some help with their respective issues.
Actually it’s almost always alcohol not the other substances.
True in college towns too. The guys fighting are the ones drinking. The pot smokers are mellow and hungry.
That wasnt opiod rage vs an attempt to hide sins.
Would he have killed them if he wasn’t an addict?
And possibly 5. Stephen was the first, and getting another look. As is the house keeper. This family and the community fascinates me. What a story.
would he?
