Thank you for the info, we will be doing just that. Question for you...did your daughter go to one of the schools and how is she liking it? My only worry is the cost of either school - he is applying for an NROTC scholarship, but we all know how hard those are to get. DS is my oldest and neither my husband or I are military, so this whole process has been a learning experience to say the least.
She chose VMI after visiting both, and she absolutely loves it. She is a current 4th class cadet (freshman) at VMI.
A bit of her story is that she was a Sea Cadet, and so like your son in JROTC she had been exposed to the military lifestyle firsthand and knew the military was what she wanted (she plans to be career). During high school she had no interest in the typical teen parties or drama. She was the odd duck that would rather be productive than party. She zero desire to continue that into college with those same kinds of people. She wanted....more.
Last November, as she was applying to USNA, we found this forum and discovered the SMC's. We hadn't ever really heard of them before, (and I will forever be grateful to this forum for leading her to VMI!). While all the SMC's had their perks, she was drawn to only VMI and the Citadel, since they were the only two that the entire school was in the corps of cadets. I'm not knocking the other schools at all - it was simply her preference to be in a military environment all day, every day and not just some of the days.
After applying and being accepted into both VMI and the Citadel, we visited both schools for overnights and she fell in love with VMI. The Citadel she didn't care for, but it just wasn't her favorite "flavor". She still hadn't heard about USNA at that point, but we paid the deposit at VMI to secure her plan B. She also applied for the Navy ROTC scholarship. She'd wavered between Navy and Marines but could only choose one and she chose Navy.
She had a nomination to USNA, but was turned down in late March. Also turned down for the Navy scholarship. She immediately opened another USNA application and started another NROTC application - this time choosing the Marine option.
After being at VMI for a just couple months she withdrew the USNA application; she was exactly where she belonged. She would not want to leave VMI even if offered an appointment to USNA.
As for the steep tuition at both schools (especially for out of state, as we are), the sticker price can be a shocker. We never paid the deposit or started any type of financial aid application at the Citadel so I can't offer anything about there. But I can say that VMI is very generous and has an amazing alumni association that has a gigantic endowment. My daughter was offered a very large merit scholarship, which brought the out of state tuition down to roughly the same cost we pay for my oldest at a nearby civilian state U, bringing VMI into reality for us.
She arrived at VMI last August and knocked it out of the park as a Rat. The Marine Colonel at VMI wrote her an astounding recommendation letter for the NROTC MO scholarship. She won the scholarship on the early board last November. She could not be happier on her path.