We had a slew of first communion parties this weekend. My son who is applying to a service academy had his fist experience of push back when asked his college plan. (this was NOT from close or even extended family-all family members have been supportive). He got a lot of "I don't beleive in war so you shouldn't apply to...." from family friends and neighbors. He just smiled and nodded (he is not a big talker) and just said that he was looking forward to the opportunity and hoped to get in and then wandered off to shoot baskets with the other teenagers. I was a bit taken aback and didn't know how to respond (other than to pour myself a glass of wine). These are VERY kind people and I dont want to get up in their faces, yet I dont want my son to feel bad about his convictions. Can anyone share their experiences and provide tips and suggestions on appropriate ways to respond?