One last post to bring everyone up to date and provide a little close-out to those that have asked. But first I want to re-iterate my thanks to those here who've wished us well in our loss and helped to guide us through this nightmare of a process.
My son is set to graduate in May with a BS in Applied Mathematics, and he was notified today that they have finally sent the disenrollment paperwork back to him today...1.5+ years after initial disenrollment paperwork. So, no ability to switch ROTC programs and commission elsewhere, and they *will* be seeking recoupment ($88K). He's got a great job lined up after graduation, so all's well that ends well. Major downside besides the disillusionment, disappointment, and stress is that he'll just be getting a 3-5 year late-start on retirement saving. All things being equal, the outcome is worth it. Our family's long nightmare with the DON is finally almost over.
A note to parents whose kids are considering NROTC - we've learned that the one unforgivable sin within the NROTC world is a substandard GPA. The stuff we've seen others "get away with" has been shocking, but at least they maintained GPA in the face of actual criminal activity. That being said, I'm not here to bad-mouth the Navy or its current leadership, and I think the NROTC team at my son's school is doing that well enough on their own. But I did want to put a period on this horrible experience and provide a word of warning to parents whose children are considering commissioning via NROTC - they do not care one whit about your child's mental health, well-being, or their future. They want a 2.5 GPA in any field and a passing PT score...that's it. Make sure your prospective midshipman knows this before going in. If your child experiences loss, trauma, pandemic, etc., and sees a drop in grades as a result, counsel them to get out before they find themselves stuck with a massive bill and a boot in their back on their way out the door.