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So an NFL team comprised of all grown men is suported by an entire staff of coaches, trainers, etc. They are given instructions, told what plays to execute, what to eat , how to train and a ton of other things. After years of playing the game they still need all of that support to be the best they can be.
Every family dynamic is different, every candidate is different and every class cycle is different. Having said that, it baffles me that people criticize those parents who help their candidates navigate the process. Helicopter parenting is over the top, but offering support and advice is something most parents will do and should do imo.
No parent can take the ACT/SAT for their kid, but they can help them improve with practice tests etc.. No parent can buy an Eagle Scout pin and just pin it on their kid, the kid has to earn it along with love and support from parents and friends. The candidates still put in all of the work, blood and sweat in their Varsity sports, but the support, advice and chauffeurs are always there. They have to do well in school and study on their own, but an extra hour of studying before finals may be “encouraged “ by parents.
So these few examples I believe represent many families and how they interact. This is why I feel it’s unfair for some people on SAF to be so critical of parents who “help” and support their kids through the SA application process. Sure some kids may do the process with zero interaction from anyone. That’s great, but shouldn’t be the standard.
In the end the most important reason that a candidate should apply and attend an SA is because THEY want to attend for their own reasons.not anyone else’s. They must navigate the SA to make it to the other side….graduation. That process is most challenging, which is why they must own it. Parents will still be there for them if they need it, but must not impose themselves.
Support can come in so many ways, but it still boils down to giving a hand up not a hand out.

I wish everyone in the future class cycles the best of luck in the process, and SAF is always here for you and supports you.
Parents, you do what you do….
 
So an NFL team comprised of all grown men is suported by an entire staff of coaches, trainers, etc. They are given instructions, told what plays to execute, what to eat , how to train and a ton of other things. After years of playing the game they still need all of that support to be the best they can be.
Every family dynamic is different, every candidate is different and every class cycle is different. Having said that, it baffles me that people criticize those parents who help their candidates navigate the process. Helicopter parenting is over the top, but offering support and advice is something most parents will do and should do imo.
No parent can take the ACT/SAT for their kid, but they can help them improve with practice tests etc.. No parent can buy an Eagle Scout pin and just pin it on their kid, the kid has to earn it along with love and support from parents and friends. The candidates still put in all of the work, blood and sweat in their Varsity sports, but the support, advice and chauffeurs are always there. They have to do well in school and study on their own, but an extra hour of studying before finals may be “encouraged “ by parents.
So these few examples I believe represent many families and how they interact. This is why I feel it’s unfair for some people on SAF to be so critical of parents who “help” and support their kids through the SA application process. Sure some kids may do the process with zero interaction from anyone. That’s great, but shouldn’t be the standard.
In the end the most important reason that a candidate should apply and attend an SA is because THEY want to attend for their own reasons.not anyone else’s. They must navigate the SA to make it to the other side….graduation. That process is most challenging, which is why they must own it. Parents will still be there for them if they need it, but must not impose themselves.
Support can come in so many ways, but it still boils down to giving a hand up not a hand out.

I wish everyone in the future class cycles the best of luck in the process, and SAF is always here for you and supports you.
Parents, you do what you do….
Wonderful post, very well said.
 
Support but be careful. Heck of a road ahead, with too many outcomes to predict! Just treasure your time with your child, because appointment or not, life will convince ya that you are ultimately on the clock.

I know a lot of kid’s come through this process on their own, or with little or no support. I also know that many parents such as myself place their success ultimately upon the success of their children…it’s a family tradition. The next generation in my family are ultimately ALL that matters.

With all my nonsense said, appreciate the ride with your child. There is plenty you can do to support your son within his responsibilities to the portal…as long as he takes ownership of this major decision and lifestyle.
 
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