In the infamous quotes category, my first CO, who kept me standing at attention in front of his desk, did not offer to shake my hand, and barely made eye contact:
"Don't sleep with the married men." And, "I've put you down at Port Services, so just stay out of sight."
Let's just say he was not a fan of the first female line officers coming to his naval station.
The slow burn that started inside me ensured that little exemplar of how not to be a leader was a start to me treating my Sailors quite differently. And sending me to Port Services? BEST thing ever to start my career, being the Port Ops DivO for "my" 4 tugboats and mini-fleet of workboats and yard craft.
Favorites that inform my servant leadership style:
"Be gentle and you can be bold; be frugal and you can be liberal. Avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader among men."
"When the best leader's work is done the people say, 'We did it ourselves.'"
Both by Lao Tzu.