So recently I have been recommended for disenrollment on the allegation of an inappropriate relationship with an MS1 cadet. Currently I am an MS3. I won't go into too much detail as it is embarrassing, but I will say what the reasoning for this allegation is. A few months ago I gave this cadet a car ride home to see an ill family member, we talked about our past (i.e, sexual history), I dropped her off and that weekend we texted. We didn't say anything explicit to each other (like wanting to do anything, planning, etc), just talked like normal 20-something year old college kids who are friends. We stopped texting after that weekend, unless it was ROTC related and sometimes she would ask for help, just like it was before I gave her the car ride. A few weeks after this, she reported me for sexual harassment (despite nothing happening). After talking to our SHARP representative (and a few other people), I was told that no sexual harassment took place. But a few days after this news I received a counseling statement saying how I have been recommended for disenrollment for violating AR 145-1, section IV, 3-43 (12). IT states "Misconduct, demonstrated by disorderly or disrespectful conduct in the ROTC classroom or during training, or other misconduct that substantially interfered with the ROTC mission, including participation in unlawful demonstration against the ROTC, illegal interference with the rights of other ROTC students, or similar acts." When I asked my ROTC Cadre about what exactly the misconduct was, they said it was my involvement in an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate (despite her not being in my platoon for Army ROTC). I believe that my actions weren't so severe that disenrollment is an appropriate remedy. As I was told, just being alone in a car that an extended period of time as well as our conversation in the car (which was mutual) and texting her is what was found to be under an inappropriate relationship. I could request a hearing with 1 or more officers to present my case, handle evidence, new evidence if any and hear my reasoning for any questions they have and that then they will make a decision. As you could imagine, I'm sort of freaking out and need some help/guidance.