Reverse a Medical DQ?

let parents express frustrations and don't judge

I have tried to read and understand this thread. I see different levels of frustration, and I see offers of help when help was clearly not requested.
I also see a parent trying to let their DS or DD take care of the problem.
I don't see rude, except in some of the responses to the honest parent.
Let parents express their frustration and then do not attack them for it. If you offer help and someone does not want it, then stop offering. When you tell a parent, "WELL IF YOU CAN'T Handle this, how will you handle the real Navy?" That is the rudest remark I have seen reading the two threads dealing with this parent's frustration.
I see the most frustration in parents who really want to help their DS or DD make it through to reach their first choice. I rarely see parents or students who have locked into one thing. Look at the students here. Most have multiple colleges listed. They have plans that do require dodmets (SA or ROTC scholar) and they have plans that do not require working with dodmets. They may be sitting on thousands of dollars in scholarships that have nothing to do with a SA and/or ROTC.
Then everything is lined up, going well, until no answer from Dodmets. It can be over a remedial or a waiver. Will the remedial turn into a DQ? Both take time. So what to do? Say goodbye to non military scholarships, risking it all for ROTC or SA? Take scholarships, make hefty deposits, and continue to hope for dodmets to make up their mind? Can a DQ be done in time for appointment or military scholarships?
Schools have different time frames. Many offers come in over Christmas, and many of those offers require a quick turn around answer.
I know this frustration. I am not dealing with it now, but I have been there. There are other forums where more nightmare stories of dealing with dodmets are described.
Let people speak their minds and leave them alone. Parents try to not show too much frustration to their DS or DD. They come here to vent. You are making the drama by attacking them.
 
As I posted elsewhere, people are free to express their frustrations with the DODMERB process, provided it is done in a civil manner. However, it is against forum rules to insult or attack other posters. Please ensure that, if you want to vent, you vent against process, not individuals, especially if they are called out by name.

Your friendly mod.
 
Moderator further explanation

Could you please point out rudeness? I see a post and then attacksn on a poster that this forum then decided to ban? Also where are the dealing out of infractions posted? Is rudeness is decided by one person?
Please stop running people off. Honesty should be the rule.
 
Patience

I read this string because my son is waiting for a waiver to be approved/disapproved for NAPS. I was saddened that some don't see what Mr Mullens has done.
Without hesitation, he got the review of a disqualifying condition (color deficiency) moving. I'm a civil servant and I can appreciate that no matter how hard one tries, its seems no good deed goes unpunished. He help my son immediately got the ball rolling. He doesn't know me or my son, yet extended a kindness to me. We wait for a decision from USNA. For my son, he knows he'll get it. For me, I wait every day checking the mail, hoping a waiver is there. I guess its because as parents we want so much for our children to get a fair shake. I'm retired Army as well, so I know how the system works. That doesn't make it easier. I want to influence the result when in fact all we can do is wait. Patience with the system, even if it seems unfair, there is a person looking at all the data and will make a good decision.
 
MullenLE said:
What I tell all applicants when asked.= If this is something YOU really want to do (not your parents, friends, etc), then apply to a few Service Academies, ROTC programs, and a few civilian schools. Better to be a senior in Mar and receive 9 acceptances and NOW the work really begins as to which one to select, than to be a senior in HS, it's March, and you haven't applied to any colleges.

Clearely, that is both ends of the spectrum, and the middle is where most applicants find themselves, but if you apply to nothing else than Academy X, you are putting all your eggs in one basket. In the 19 years I've been doing this, I've seen many an applicant who was susbstantially surprised and severely disappointed by not expanding thier opportunities.:thumb:
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This advice can not be stated enough. Our son had plan B, C, D, and I think at this time last year, EFGHI.......:shake: We lost some deposits, but felt that we had no choice as to have back up plans in case USNA wasn't in the cards. Waiting was the hardest in our household. We, too, in the beginnig of the whole process worried about some things that were on our son's medical record in early childhood, but as previous posters have pointed out, we just had to trust the process and wait it out.
 
lovethenavy said:
This advice can not be stated enough. Our son had plan B, C, D, and I think at this time last year, EFGHI.......:shake: We lost some deposits, but felt that we had no choice as to have back up plans in case USNA wasn't in the cards. Waiting was the hardest in our household. We, too, in the beginnig of the whole process worried about some things that were on our son's medical record in early childhood, but as previous posters have pointed out, we just had to trust the process and wait it out.
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These deposits, which some discuss cavalirly, are a major expense and headache to many others.
 
This thread has gone way off track from the original post asking the question about the reversal of a Medical DQ. Let's not bring deposits or money or personal opinion into the discussion.
The only person who can officially answer any medical DQ questions is Larry Mullen. Period.
 
DQ/Waivers

Obviously, DoDMERB must follow specific guidelines. If "disqualification" results from a medical issue, then we, as parents, can only hope and pray that the Service Academy our sons and daughters have applied to still consider them to be a competitive candidate even with the DQ. The Service Academy will then request a waiver. Right?
 
DoDMERB and the SA are two entirely separate entities.
When a Med DQ is given to any candidate the letter is from DoDMERB to the candidate.
At this point it would be the candidate's responsibility to contact the SA to which they are applying to inquire whether that Academy would potentially approve a waiver for their condition and the appropriate steps the candidate must take to put the waiver process into motion.
Med DQs though tough for any parent/candidate to hear, are for reasons specific to that branch of service.
As an example, color blindness is a Med DQ for USCGA.
Larry Mullen is an EXCELLENT resource for Med Remediation and questions.
 
MOD INPUT:

Appreciate everyone beating me to the punch and getting back on topic for this thread. :thumb:
 
riverdale and all others. - Service Academy medical waivers are as follows:

1. DoDMERB determines an applicant does NOT meeet medical standards.
2. The applicant does NOT have to do anything at this juncture. Each Admissions office will dteremine if the applicant is "competitive for an offer of appointent."
3. If the applicant is competitive, they will deirect their medical authorities to consider the applicant for a waiver. If the medical folks @ an Academy, want additional tests,evals,and/or information, they request it thru DoDMERB to the applicant.
4. Depending on the Academy (each are different in their process), the Academy will grant or deny the waiver. The Academy will notify the applicant via letter of their decision.:thumb:
 
Mr. Mullen,

If the academy notifies the applicant of the waiver decision by mail, is it likely that the DoDMERB site might show the update before the letter is received by the applicant?
 
Likely? Yes. Guaranteed? No:thumb:
 
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