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Just_A_Mom said:
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!
:yay: :beer1: :groupwave:
I hope you at least have a Skype date planned! :wink:


Blackhawkmom - Enough of the pity party already!!
Find a hobby! Go on a Date with your Husband - remember all the times when the kids were little and you wished for free time?
Volunteer!! Paint a room!!
Do something with your own life so that when you see him - you can talk about what YOU have been doing.

I don't know how often your son is calling you but if he is calling you every day quit being so accessible. ( I know that sounds mean) Don't talk to him more than once (maybe twice) a week. Quit telling him you miss him.
He doesn't need to tell you everything. You CANNOT fix what ever injustice he (and you) percieve is happening.

Your son needs you to give him Gifts. Gift to him the freedom to succeed on his one in his journey. Gift him ownership of his new life.
Love him enough to let him go.
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I second the anniversary wishes. Here's to many more!

And the rest of your post, JAM. You are on target.

BH Mom: I flat do not understand your last posts.........take a deep breath and re-read JAM's post and follow through. Grow a hide, please. Good heavens, so sensitive!!! Salt on your wounds? Lady, we have on this board service men and women who have been wounded. And it wasn't by their kiddo going to a prestigious SA and not getting to see his mommy on an unexpected overnight. Our role as parents is NOT THAT HARD. No need to make it harder on the poor kiddo or yourself.
 
blackhawkmom said:
a non military vs military
a parent vs -non parent
a never been there academy person vs an academy person
a civilian vs an active officer

that alone is a argument waiting to happen due to the fact we are not in each others shoes.
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No, BHmom: that is NOT an ARGUMENT WAITING TO HAPPEN........to me it is a cause for GRATITUDE: my gratitude for HIS service. Breathe, please, breathe!
 
Starting this post was a way to vent -ask for advice and get new perspectives. I have recieved plenty of all. But what i feel the most out of all this is dazed confused irritated and yes a lot defensive.

My rant may not have been understood but i sure felt good at the time even if you didn't understand what i was talking about. Letting go of a lot of frustrations.

Scoutpilot --again I say thank you and i had no right to assume anything about you -but in turn you had no right to asume anything about me. I feel nothing but gratitude to you and all the other service men and women and know I don't have what it takes to do the job you have chosen to do.And Happy Anniversary I wish for you and you wife many more and hopefully together.

mom of 3 boys--no insinuation of punishment was meant -it was a parental perception of missed opportunities and mids missing the oportunity by that much.

AFAMOM08-thank you for understanding.

I'm glad all of you are so passionate and hopefully i will be there someday but it will not happen overnight.

I am always positive when i speak to my son and never vent or go on and on how much I miss him. As for calls we get one once every two weeks or when he needs to tell us something or wants something mailed. We do not talk every week. I have let him lead the way and initiate all conversations.


No the academy owes me nothing----i have given them and my country my only son and yet it owes me nothing. Excuse me --he has chosen to give himself for his country he makes his own decisions.

I do not have an issue with the academy -i have questions about the workings and methods of the academy.

The reoccurring ideas I seem to be getting all seems to be experience not only with the academy but with the military itself. And most of it from many years. I have no doubt you all know what you are talking about. I am on month four -try to think back when you weren't one of the experienced and guide me not accuse me or belittle me for my ignorance.

My argument waiting to happen statement was meant as a analogy--i dont know or walk in scoutpilots shoes nor he mine. It is human nature to question what we dont know. We dont have to agree with everyone we come in contact with. We diiffer in our opinions because we are seeing it on two different sides.

As for discussing all this with my mid-please if you can't give me credit for anything else -trust me i dont vent or express any of these things to him he has his own adjustments to make and questions to be answered. He has his sources -im trying to find mine.

Jennyp--i'm glad you are excited for your 3/c would love to know how you adjusted during the plebe year. If you have a military background i would guess it was easier for you and him. As far as my hide is concerned i have one i just choose not to show it to everyone. i also am very active -work a full time job and have another child. Volunteer and am a chairperson for a non profit organization-i do have a life. i am not whining. Bit----g maybe but not whining.
 
***** is ok.......whining is, well, grating on the nerves. BHmom, I must say that after I posted today, I got to worrying......you seemed so overwhelmingly negative and lonely for your son, I found myself wondering if you needed more help than we here can give. You sound better this evening. Sometimes being positive requires real effort, but the result is worth it.

I think we are all relieved you are not venting to your mid. No good can come of that!
 
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