JAM what civilian colleges and what SAs do are two different things entirely.
To "hang onto" an unwanted SA appt in hopes of getting a more desirable one after the deadline is indeed unethical . Not to mention that it harms other students who were hoping for an appointment as well. IMO not a very good way to start off a military career.
Hmmmmm. Let's see. Who says anything about "hanging onto" an *unwanted* appointment. We are talking about someone who has an appointment to their second choice and is waiting for an appointment to their first choice.
No one is *harmed* here. If someone is accepted in June off a waitlist and rejects their second choice at that time - another appointment can be offered if that academy desires.
It may be your opinion that this is not a good way to begin a military career but I would counter that why do the SA's have a wait list then?
Most, if not all kids on the wait lists have committed to another school - either academy or civilian. The admissions departments know this and they are run by Commissioned Military Officers.
I can't imagine telling someone to pass on a given appointment while waiting for the slim chance of a wait list to their first choice. What a travesty that would be, to end up with nothing.
I can't imagine telling someone to quit on their dreams when place on a wait list. There is not harm in seeing this through to the end. At least then they won't spend the next 30 years wondering - "what if???"
Futhermore - I am really puzzled by your assertion that it's okay to yank around a civilian school but not a military school. IMO - Ethics and honor should apply to all walks of life - this is not something the Military has a monopoly on.
Finally, congratulations to your daughter. However, her situation is not parallel to the one being discussed.
By your own account she:
turned back the appointments that she really did not think were in line with her longterm goals and desires.
Good for her and this is what she should do.
I would never advise any candidate to accept more than one appointment at a time. Likewise, I would not advise someone to accept more than one civilian college at a time.
If you misunderstood my previous post, I apologize and I hope I have clarified my position more clearly.