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Discussion in 'Naval Academy - USNA' started by brewmeist, Jun 24, 2019.

  1. brewmeist

    brewmeist Member

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    Curious if any other parent has a pit in their stomach right now. Hard to believe that it is almost showtime. I wish nothing but the best to all of these future Mids.

    If anyone wants to join me for a toast, I'm planning on walking right over to the Federal House once those doors slam shut.
     
  2. SconniDad

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    I'm nervous just remembering our anxiety last year at this time. They'll be fine! Going to cheer on the sailing team on Block Island this week, so I'll be sure to toast them from Rhode Island.
     
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  3. caseman

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    I'd be more curious if any parent doesn't have a pit in their stomach at this point.

    It's the end of the journey of raising your child. It's the beginning of a journey where your child learns the skills to become a great leader, takes on new challenges, and grows into a high-achieving adult. The pit in my stomach is filled with many emotions (pride, happiness, nervousness, etc).

    Good luck to everyone associated with the class of 2023!
     
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  4. Old Navy BGO

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    I don't have a stake personally, so I don't have the nerves. That said, I know how it feels, having sent two daughters to college (far away from the Midwest). In some ways, sending them off to USNA would have been easier .... your sons and daughters will be heading into a much more controlled environment , at least for the next 6 weeks.

    Beyond that, they are going to have some outstanding opportunities. Everyone appointed to the Class of '23 has the potential to achieve greatness-- it might seem a stretch when you see that sea of kids in new whiteworks and the deer in the headlights look, but I can guarantee there are future Admirals, Generals, military and community leaders in that bunch. You've given them the tools to succeed, so sit back and let them go .... they will do just fine !

    PS.. would love to join you all at Federal House, McGarveys, Middleton Tavern, O'Briens, Chesapeake Bay Brewing (new favorite, owned by a Classmate)...hmm,, could be a long list, would be a long night !
     
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  5. ders_dad

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    I don’t have a pit in my stomach (I’m a bit concerned because maybe I should). DS is beginning his great adventure and I envy him. This is his destiny. There will be tears on Thursday (behind my sun glasses) but it will be uncontrollable pride and a wistfulness that his grandfathers are no longer here.

    My DS is so ready.
     
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  6. HopefulDad3210

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    If it makes you feel any better, I’m a bit nervous and my son’s a detailer. LOL
     
  7. Dr. Strange Love

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    2nd @Old Navy BGO comment on there being less to worry about when entering a SA versus a Traditional School.

    Also, don’t forget about us 200+ NAPSter parents and guardians who are starting to feel the pit .... and don’t leave out the foundation parents either.
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    Btw .... gave up the toasting and the spirits nearly 20 years now .... Something about seeing life with a straight eye always..
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  8. MidCakePa

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    As I-Day approached, DW and I didn’t have butterflies either. And when I-Day came, there were virtually no tears at drop-off and post-swearing in. Hugs and kisses and thoughtful words, to be sure, but minimal tears. I chalk that up to knowing DD was exactly where she belonged.
     
  9. justdoit19

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    I pretty much don’t remember Iday at all. A blur. Thank goodness for the pics and videos.
     
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  10. Stork103

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    Damn Brew, I’m a former Navy Man and would join you in a red hot second for that drink (or three), but DS didn’t make the cut, so that honor is reserved solely for Mid Dads and and Moms. Best of luck to you and your Mid!
     
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  11. BoxerMom

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    Going into I Day is a lot like going into the birth of your first child. Lots of people will tell you stories about their experience. You will read up on it here and elsewhere and you think you know what you are going into. But until you do it (both as a parent and a Mid), you really don't know how YOUR I Day story is going to turn out. As long as the Mid is present when the Oath is administered, a loud "I DO" is heard, and the Mid marches into Bancroft, it will be a successful day. Needless to say, both events are ones you will NOT forget.

    The best advice I received as a parent is to temper your expectations of a "Normal Rockwell" goodbye either in the morning or after the Oath. I thought it would be so touching to see our youngest son say goodbye to his older brother whom he adores that I Day morning at our rental home. However, an overnight stomach virus sidelined our younger son and the tender interaction I envisioned was simply our youngest saying "I am going back to bed. Good Luck and don't screw this up". One quick hug and it was done. They both laugh about it now.

    Once we met our Mid after the Oath at our designated spot (and yes, plan this ahead of time - it will save precious time), he was "hangry" as he missed lunch due to a mix up at medical (and yes, bring food and a cold drink for your Mid.) He was hot, sweaty, and had the "deer in headlights" look you will see often that day. He was petrified to be late to report to march in and left us much earlier than we wanted. But he also said, "I can do this." Luckily, we were warned just be ready for ANYTHING from your Mid. This is also great advice for Plebe summer phone calls, Plebe parent weekend and Plebe AC year.

    Best of luck to the Mids (and Parents) of the Class of 2023!
     
  12. Aina Haina

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    We were right where you are a year ago. I-day was wonderful moving for us, especially seeing MidSibs saying goodbye to their older brother. Frankly, leaving the Yard after PPW was much more difficult for us, the parents. Just know you will be seeing them in 6 1/2 ‘short’ weeks and the transformation is real.

    Best to all of the Class of 2023 (and their families)!!!
     
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  13. Just Dad

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    Disclaimer: I didn't attend the USNA, I haven't "been there". I am "Just Dad"

    Back in 2016 DD's competition schedule was really busy (away from home stuff) into the first week of June. Then there was a whirlwind of getting ready and saying goodbye to friends; not much time for family or quiet reflection. On the way to the airport to head back for IDay I remember glancing over at her as we drove through the greenbelt/wetland behind our house. It was like the words were written across her face. "I am leaving the place, this life, for good"; hard to see but one of those moments when it's best to keep quiet.

    I wouldn't have missed I Day for anything. It's not an easy day, but I am so glad I got to prop her up a-bit one last time and then stand beside her and watch her in the ranks "eyes front" but sneaking looks at her Mom and I. Apprehensive, but no quit in her eyes.

    For Parents of P2bs just a couple of things:
    1) My DD will be a 1c next year. She will be a PS platoon leader for CL2023. She put in for a Detailer slot last summer, but was not selected. While home on leave for block1 she worked hard to fully recover from a leg fracture so she can run with "her plebes", and she reviewed sword work for drill, (she isn't familiar with it and wants to have it down for PS). DD and I are still pretty tight; heres what I know. I know that being a Detailer is a sought after position at USNA; I know my DD sees her assignment this year as an opportunity to participate in giving to your DD/DS the same meaningful experience she had in 2016; (sadly, for her this means that "its supposed to be hard" and "its supposed to hurt"). Mids and USNA grads talk about PS in terms of "testing" with remembrances of all the stuff they suffered through. I guess there is an element of that, but watching DD through her years at USNA I have come to view PS and Plebe year WAaaaay more as something that USNA and Mids do FOR your Plebe not something done TO the Plebes. I think 90% of the testing was done in the admissions process, the Navy now has 4years to polish the rock that is you P2b. have a look at https://jorules.wordpress.com/2013/07/08/some-words-for-the-cadre/comment-page-1/ (hope the link works, if not Google "JO rules Some Words for the Cadre").
    It's a short read, that gives a look into the head's of a detailer; I shipped it to DD in 2016 to offer her some broader perspective on PS....... as she crawled thru the mud.

    2) Talking with a good friend and USNA Grad last weekend I mentioned that DD had pretty much decided that USNA was the "best college in the world" by Nov. of her Plebe year. My buddy replied, "Crap (not the word he used) for the fist 7 months all I could think of was getting through to summer so I could transfer out". This guy finished, flew A4s, went to Med school, served as an MD in the reserves, joined my wife's practice group, is now CEO of a big time hospital---and feels a special bond with my DD. The point is, some DDs/DSs fall in love with USNA during PS, for others it takes longer, but as mentioned above the USN is confident that your kid is a fit and has what it takes. They've been doing this along time, ------boy, I wish I had as much trust in my financial advisor as I've grown to have in the USNA.

    3) DW and I felt some sadness about having our DD grow-up (mostly) in a step function during PS+Plebe Year. Worst for me was the sudden realization over PPW that our home wasn't her home anymore. That said, we know that our DD couldn't have gotten anything close to the education (class work, environment, experience) that she has received at the USNA. Seriously, hang on to that thought, YOUR KID IS SO LUCKY TO BE SUFFERING THIS SUMMER.

    OTHER STUFF:
    A) Don't miss ANY opportunity to talk with other Plebe parents! over Iday, Amazing Kids often come from great parents. They are all in the same boat with you and eager to talk. This played a big part in my "on the fence" DW's transition to a Navy Mom, (she was just awed by the tribe our DD was going to be a part of).

    B) I know there are plenty of threads on what to put in a care package, but........ If you are at USNA for IDay swing by the MidStore and pickup an extra pair of Plebe PT gear and send it to your Plebe. (DD's rec.) "That extra shirt/shorts set is likely save Plebe having to put on cold-wet-smelly PT gear a couple of times"; "its a downer"per DD.

    C) DD's rec again, put dry shampoo in the first care package for DDs particularly is new regs have your DD wearing longer hair. Long hair will get dirty/wet and there won't be time to adequately wash it.

    D) You might give some of DD/DS's friends pre stamped-n-addressed envelopes for your plebe executing the "nuts and bolts" of snail mail is a mystery to people under 25 yrs old, (we did this for DD in 2016 and she got a lot of mail).

    E) At least in 2016, Plebes were asked at random moments to "tell me something interesting" by detailers. Tidbits of info about: the Navy (ships, planes, battles, subs, Etc.); USNA; Navy Football; shipped along with your letters might save you kid a few push-ups. PG to R-rated jokes are "money" during PS you can include those in letters too, along with the odd article about a favorite sports team, Etc. that might take a DD's/DS's head out their PS environment for a moment. I sent some really fat envelopes back in 2016. Some of what I sent help DD out, some things she never read but everything sent (useful or not) let her know I was thinking of her and doing what I could to support her.

    F) If you are in the MidWest or West Coast, its a big/costly deal to get both Mom and Dad back to USNA to see your plebe. My family (particularly me DW) has learned that Parents can actually travel alone, AND that "Just Dad, Just Mom" trips are really great. DD actually likes having Mom or Dad "all to herself". These easier to schedule, less costly trips have been great for our Family. Highly recommended! especially if the budget or schedule wont support two parent visits.

    I spend time on the Yard whenever work takes me to the East coast. I am ALWAYS impressed with the place, but its the Mids that alway make me smile and make me want to come back, (I will miss time on the Yard when DD is commissioned). To any Parent sweating over IDay that reads this:

    MY MOST SINCERE CONGRATULATIONS; AND WELL DONE MOM AND DAD!!
     
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  14. justdoit19

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    I LOOOOVE the line “PS and Plebe year are waaaay more as something USNA and Mids do FOR your Plebe not something done TO the Plebes”. This is such a great perspective.

    I was a Plebe mom on IDay a year ago. I was standing by the wall, under a shade tree, waiting for it all to commence. Started visiting with a mom of a detailer. I couldn’t believe she travelled across the county to witness her detailer! She explained the whole process of becoming one, and I realized how proud she was of her detailer Mid. How hard her detailer was working to take care of my Plebe. She teared up. It was that moment I realized how much USNA and the Mids are family and care. Are there to help get everyone through, NOT weed them out (a misconception I had about
    Plebe summer).

    So Just Dad, your post hit home with me. I gained a whole different perspective that day, seeing USNA through the eyes of a proud detailer mom. Kudos to your DD!!
     
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    I had a mom of a Firstie stop us this morning as we were leaving the Mid store and go out of her way to tell us how important her detailer was approaching their job, beginning tomorrow. She was great. Been that way all day. My DS really feels he is going to be part of something special. Ran into our BGO on the yard, too!

    Been to Chick and Ruth’s (best crab cakes!). I spent “enough for today “ at the Mid store. DW accuses me of trying to live vicariously - not true. Just very proud of being accepted into such a supportive community.

    BTW - the humidity is no joke!
     
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    In case it’s any comfort to anyone, according to DS, the first set detailers are already working exhaustingly hard getting ready for tomorrow. Best of luck 2023.
     
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    Best of luck tomorrow to my two cyber buddies @ders_dad and the outspoken @A1Janitor. Your sons will make the US Navy even more impressive.
     
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  18. Just Dad

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    Heh heh heh:
    I remember being at Pax (down the road from USNA) years ago. During a run I remember thinking that if I got really close behind the guy running in front of me I might be able to "draft him" and move through the ambient moisture in the air easier. It can be pretty bad.

    In 2016 the heat/humidity combo was much worse for PPW in August than IDay in June. It was hard to leave the hotel and you didn't want to walk anywhere. I don't know what the standard weather pattern is back there but I'm sure others here can tell you if you should expect worse in August.
     
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