I say mooch off your parents as long as you can. I didn't classify dorm room "essentials" as graduation gifts. If you don't really know what you need now, ask for money and into your bank account, or gift cards for companies that aren't likely to go out of business, which is really hard to tell these days. Gift cards for COS local vendors. Sheels, Whatburger, Lululemon, etc
Let me drop a big one here: it is POSSIBLE to have a minifridge as a Doolie, but it's very squadron specific. My DD and her roommates strategized which one was going to be doing the asking, and then went up the chain of command. They worked out fridge rent terms but alas, after the winter break they all got new roommates so the fridge went down the hall with former roommate. Again, very squadron specific AND VERY MUCH your DD/DS's ability to appropriately and successfully navigate what's allowed and how to do it.