Are there really Mom's out there that don't think of their boy's as Baby Boys?
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My son is the elder of 2 kids. I got heck this summer, I think it was from my Dad, for calling him "The Boy," as opposed to "The Girl" - his sister. It's such a habit I do it without even thinking. I need to remember to ask The Boy how he actually feels about it. He'll be 21 next month, but I can't seem to think of him as "The Man." Maybe I can work up to accepting "The Guy." 
Enjoy your visit with your Baby Boy next weekend!
Enjoy your visit with your Baby Boy next weekend!
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I've always considered "The boy" in the endearment catagory.
Hey boy! Clean up that nasty room! (said last monday to the 22 year old 2nd LT)
Boy, are you gonna eat that last bite of chocolate cake on your plate? Can I haz it? (said last night)
Hi boy. Whatcha doin'? (how I answer any of his phone calls)
No, the boy hasn't gotten his orders yet. (what I say to anyone asking about this little issue. I have the boy until the end of September it seems)
I'm the boy's Mom so I'm joining this club.
Btw, on the flip side, I get called "Mamma".
Hey boy! Clean up that nasty room! (said last monday to the 22 year old 2nd LT)
Boy, are you gonna eat that last bite of chocolate cake on your plate? Can I haz it? (said last night)
Hi boy. Whatcha doin'? (how I answer any of his phone calls)
No, the boy hasn't gotten his orders yet. (what I say to anyone asking about this little issue. I have the boy until the end of September it seems)
I'm the boy's Mom so I'm joining this club.
Btw, on the flip side, I get called "Mamma".
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Its a perspective thing...
My mother used the following criteria: "If they are the age of my children or younger, they are kids". Following this theory, I taught "students" in 1993 and now I teach "kids." My baby brother is in his forties and just over 6' 5". However, he is still my baby brother. What he calls me might get me booted off this forum so we won't go there!
My mother used the following criteria: "If they are the age of my children or younger, they are kids". Following this theory, I taught "students" in 1993 and now I teach "kids." My baby brother is in his forties and just over 6' 5". However, he is still my baby brother. What he calls me might get me booted off this forum so we won't go there!
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I want to excuse myself early in this post to let others know that I understand their feelings and do not want to trample on the groups accomplishments. I hope you'll forgive me if my writing seems awkward. Conveying my feelings here may be misconstrued but I only want whats best for our kids. That being said, having our children attend the academy has been no bed of roses for any of us. We are all proud of our children and love them tremendously. There isn't a kid attending the academy that wasn't a "big fish in a little pond" in their own community or state. This is different. The academy is trying hard to train these young men and women, as wonderful and unique as they all are, into becoming one cohesive, bonded group, to become selfless individuals who work towards the good of the regiment. Pride is an internal thing and when someone is truly confident, there is no need for words.
I am worried that your sons and daughters may suffer more than is necessary if they and we don't learn the lesson of "acta non verba". Please let their accomplishments speak for themselves. I'm sure your kids already understand this. I empathize with any kid who is being singled out. But I'm really scared that the whole class of 2013 may suffer. I know that the class of 2012 had trouble with too much parent involvement. I am afraid that instead of being labled the "Admiral's" class, the class of 2013 may be labeled the "Baby Boys and Girls" class. Parents, please pull your egos back and be careful with your posts.
I want to excuse myself early in this post to let others know that I understand their feelings and do not want to trample on the groups accomplishments. I hope you'll forgive me if my writing seems awkward. Conveying my feelings here may be misconstrued but I only want whats best for our kids. That being said, having our children attend the academy has been no bed of roses for any of us. We are all proud of our children and love them tremendously. There isn't a kid attending the academy that wasn't a "big fish in a little pond" in their own community or state. This is different. The academy is trying hard to train these young men and women, as wonderful and unique as they all are, into becoming one cohesive, bonded group, to become selfless individuals who work towards the good of the regiment. Pride is an internal thing and when someone is truly confident, there is no need for words.
I am worried that your sons and daughters may suffer more than is necessary if they and we don't learn the lesson of "acta non verba". Please let their accomplishments speak for themselves. I'm sure your kids already understand this. I empathize with any kid who is being singled out. But I'm really scared that the whole class of 2013 may suffer. I know that the class of 2012 had trouble with too much parent involvement. I am afraid that instead of being labled the "Admiral's" class, the class of 2013 may be labeled the "Baby Boys and Girls" class. Parents, please pull your egos back and be careful with your posts.
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First, XBulldog, I understand where you are coming from. But let me clarify, the problem with 2012 parents was NOT those posting on these message boards. It was the parents calling school Admin offices to complain about their poor little plebe being IT'd or treated "badly." It was the parents who emailed all of the 1/C to beg for recognition, so many emails that it locked the system according to DD. The behavior went WAY beyond helicopter parenting. 
I suspect that some had viewed KP as service academy "lite" and weren't prepared for the full regimental system. I don't know one parent on the boards last year who supported that sort of behavior!
That said, I do think there is a lot to be said for maintaining your plebe's anonymity as much as possible. Most parents understand each other's pride in their children's accomplishments. This year's group of plebe parents seems to be very supportive of each other. If you view this board as a social networking site, it seems natural to share your pride with each other. But, the fact is that this is not strictly a social site. The possibility of postings being misconstrued to the plebe's detriment is there, remote, but there. As a plebe parent, caution is in order.
But I thought this was a thread about terms of endearments us Mums have for our Boys.
I suspect that some had viewed KP as service academy "lite" and weren't prepared for the full regimental system. I don't know one parent on the boards last year who supported that sort of behavior! That said, I do think there is a lot to be said for maintaining your plebe's anonymity as much as possible. Most parents understand each other's pride in their children's accomplishments. This year's group of plebe parents seems to be very supportive of each other. If you view this board as a social networking site, it seems natural to share your pride with each other. But, the fact is that this is not strictly a social site. The possibility of postings being misconstrued to the plebe's detriment is there, remote, but there. As a plebe parent, caution is in order.
But I thought this was a thread about terms of endearments us Mums have for our Boys.
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Spin
Well, KPMUM2012, in my humble opinion, you can spin it anyway you'd like. The point of my post was not to discredit the class of 2012 or its parents.
My point is that our posts will sometimes distract from the business of our sons and daughters. Therefore, it belongs here and in the previous thread. But as a man and not "Phil Donohue" I felt the need to say something. Now feel free to "Oprahfy" me.
Well, KPMUM2012, in my humble opinion, you can spin it anyway you'd like. The point of my post was not to discredit the class of 2012 or its parents.
My point is that our posts will sometimes distract from the business of our sons and daughters. Therefore, it belongs here and in the previous thread. But as a man and not "Phil Donohue" I felt the need to say something. Now feel free to "Oprahfy" me.
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HA.... I was blessed with two children....
My Baby Girl is 18 and a CGA Scholar at NMMI.
My Baby Boy is 14 and a freshman in high school.
They will always be my babies.. no matter how old they are...
I speak from experience (as a 44yr old Baby Girl to my mom) There is nothing better then going home to mom's house and feeling that feeling of complete comfort, and knowing I took my shoes off not because I had to, but because I felt comfortable enough to do so......
My Baby Girl is 18 and a CGA Scholar at NMMI.
My Baby Boy is 14 and a freshman in high school.
They will always be my babies.. no matter how old they are...
I speak from experience (as a 44yr old Baby Girl to my mom) There is nothing better then going home to mom's house and feeling that feeling of complete comfort, and knowing I took my shoes off not because I had to, but because I felt comfortable enough to do so......
paradigm shift
Yes, you may be right. It could be that I need to see the positive and ignore the negative. But I said nothing about anyone being overbearing! Excuse me, Mr. Freud but your slip might be showing.
Okay, sorry, I give up!
Yes, you may be right. It could be that I need to see the positive and ignore the negative. But I said nothing about anyone being overbearing! Excuse me, Mr. Freud but your slip might be showing.
Okay, sorry, I give up!
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