Curiosity....who told you that BS of kissing arses? Det Commanders are usually an O5/O6 they can see the pucker before it hits their butt.
JMPO, I think people were being sarcastic when they said kiss butts, because a 2.6 cgpa non-tech (unless Ivy) is going to be an issue for SFT.
Avg cgpa for non-techs in AFROTC selected have a 3.3/3.4. CoC recs is a huge chunk for the score, but so is the cgpa. They were probably saying with a 2.6 non-tech, your best chance to become a POC is to kiss butt for SFT.
AFROTC requires SFT, get the grades up. A 2nd major in non-tech is not going to impress. Pulling the cgpa up to 3.5 will. Proving you are a valuable asset to the det., will impress more than kissing butt.
Again, the cgpa is low, but if 2.6 is avg at your college for AFROTC non-techs, don't worry. Your SAT/ACT is also a factor. 1150 or 26 on SAT/ACT will be part of your packet. PFT of 88 compared to 99 will also be a deciding issue.
If I were you, I would talk to the cadre and ask the avg cgpa for non-tech majors that were selected from your det for SFT 2013.
Think about it if the CoC supports you for SFT, they are placing their name/career on the line. Low selection rate goes on their OPR/PRF (promotions/career opportunities). Do you think kissing their butt will make them risk their own career? Highly doubtful. Just like any cadet in AFROTC it is also about their career. You can send them food baskets every week and it won't make a difference in ranking.
Why? Because at the end of the day they go home to their family, and pay bills. They aren't going to go out on a limb for a cadet. They know the system for SFT selection. SFT is a national board, not det by det.