Dating at the Academy.

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  1. CONative

    CONative Member

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    So another thread I was just reading sparked my curiosity in the subject. What (if any) rules are there on dating? And I have read it a million times epeacially in the books, but what exactly do "they" mean by No Fraternization?

    Thanks!
    Tyler:barf:
     
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  2. falcongirl

    falcongirl USAFA grad

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    If you are a freshman, no dating or being too friends with any upperclass cadet. Professional relationships only. You'll know where the line is. Upperclassmen are trainers, mentors, and teachers, but not friends.

    If you are an upperclassman, no dating or being friends with 4th class cadets.

    Within the upperclass ranks:
    No dating within your chain of command. This means if you are the training NCO, you shouldn't date the training officer. A 3rd class cadet girl dating the firstie squadron commander also gives an impression of favoritism.

    No dating enlisted military members or civilian contractors.

    You cannot start a relationship with an officer, but it's fine if it started as a non-frat relationships while at the academy. For instance, a female 2LT dating a male 1st or 2nd class cadet is fine if they they started dating while they were both cadets. A 2LT male dating a 3rd class cadet female is not kosher because it would have been frat at USAFA (ie he would have been a firstie when she was a 4-degree).
     
  3. HeWantsTheBFE

    HeWantsTheBFE USAFA Class of 2017

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    Tip from friend of various military institutions: cadating can be a bad idea. That's right, cadating.
     
  4. USCGA13STN

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  5. RCave

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    There is time for dating at the Academy? :eek:
     
  6. cryosk8trboi

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    honestly...time as a 4 degree is limited, so most typically dont. but yes there is time.

    put it this way. if you want there to be time...youll make time. simple as that
     
  7. FlyingFuzz

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    And with the time you are able to make, you will have things better to do than trying to date someone. That's just my (not so) humble opinion.
     
  8. Christcorp

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    When the Air Force wants you to start having a social life, they'll issue you a date.

    :yllol:
     
  9. LineInTheSand

    LineInTheSand USCGA 2006

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    You don't want Air Force-issued dates.


    Eventually your brain and hormones will tell you it's time to make time for the opposite (or now same too) sex. I started making time for that in my second year.
     
  10. HeWantsTheBFE

    HeWantsTheBFE USAFA Class of 2017

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    Somewhat off topic: I like the idea of "making time." It means I made the time, and I own the time. It's mine, ALL MINE! :biggrin:

    But cadating is it's own ballgame, or so i've heard.

    Also, does the 2% club exist at the USAFA?
     
  11. Dad

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    Yes. My son's squadmate from C4C year is still seeing his HS g-friend. It's rare, but some make it work.
     
  12. HeWantsTheBFE

    HeWantsTheBFE USAFA Class of 2017

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    Thanks for the info...

    Though long-distance has to suck. Does said squadmate have any suggestions or tips?
     
  13. tradecraft

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    prove the 98% wrong.
     
  14. Dad

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    Communicate the intensity of being at USAFA in that there will be little time (initially) to correspond using social media, e-mail, and phone calls. If the significant other understands the demands on a C4C and can defer their needs for a few months, it will be easier. If they are not, then it will be a really long time to Recognition.
     
  15. CONative

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    This made my day!:wave::bounce:
     
  16. MN-Dad-2016

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    I'm going to a wedding this month. DD's best friend is marrying her HS sweetheart from the USCGA. He was worth the wait. A GREAT guy who graduated 1st in his class this year!:thumb:

    My wife just saw on Facebook that our friends who have a West Point grad popped the question. He is marrying his HS sweetheart too.

    Both went to my kids high school. As I said, GREAT people. My DS is dating the same girl too. They have been dating for several years and they have every intention of making it. I hope they do because I think she is great. But they were mature enough to realize that they had make career decisions that was not focused on each other. If one is a follower, that IMHO will spell future disaster.

    HeWantsTheBFE. You currently have your 1st round draft pick.:wink: If she is a keeper, then make it work. re: tips. I understand Facebook has a group that helps helps like-minded people understand common challenges. I know my son's girlfriend is active and it's helped them out a lot. I can find out about that if you like. The other advice is have her visit on I-Day. It puts things into perspective. Also, one important word of advice. WEBGUY.:thumb:

    Because of the ease communication, Facebook and texting has raised the 2% club to the 5% club. Just a guess.....
     
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  17. LineInTheSand

    LineInTheSand USCGA 2006

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    You gotta take time to make time.


    At CGA we called it "dark siding" and it had benefits (if you can't leave a campus 5 out of 7 days, date someone there). It also had its drawbacks (once you break up, there's no getting away).
     
  18. mperri215

    mperri215 USMMAPrep18

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    My BF is going to attend USNA this upcoming year and I am a sponsored prep at NMMI for this upcoming year. We will be very far but if we can make it one year then we will only be 4 hours away from each other when I attend Kings Point as a Plebe and he will be a 3rd class. We want to make things work, but we understand that school comes before talking to each other. Any advice? What would be a good way of spending liberty (possibly seeing each other).
     
  19. HeWantsTheBFE

    HeWantsTheBFE USAFA Class of 2017

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    Can someone PLEASE explain webguy to me? I've heard of it all over the place, but I would like a more detailed explanation.
     
  20. CONative

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    Google is my GOD!

    http://www.usafawebguy.com/

    :idea:It is called a wonderful thing called google! :screwy: Web guy is:

    Hope this Helps,
    Tyler
     

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