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  1. xrunmariarunx

    xrunmariarunx Member

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    I was wondering if there are any mids/graduates, etc. that I can possibly talk to. I'm 90% sure I'm leaving, and I'm inquiring about the paperwork. Help?
     
  2. usna1985

    usna1985 USNA Alumnus

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    I'm sending you a PM.
     
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    Don't leave man, stay strong and follow through you can make it. My dad graduated from the Naval Academy and he said he wanted to leave all the time and that he almost did. Also, he said that one of his professors asked his class "How many of you have thought about quitting?" And only a few of them raised their hands - including my dad. Then he said "You must be crazy if you haven't thought about quitting". My dad told me "No matter how much I wanted to leave, I followed through. And graduating and becoming a naval officer has been the greatest accomplishment of my life". Now don't take this the wrong way, I encourage you not to leave, but it is solely up to you. If you don't mind me asking, why do you want to leave?
     
  4. Stage4survivor

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    Maria,
    I find your post disturbing, as a parent, because of the hard work you've already accomplished simply to get in to the the Academy. I've read some of your posts in which you've helped and shared your experiences with others.
    YOU ARE the exact kind of person I would want to lead my sons, or other peoples' sons and daughters!
    EVERYONE has self doubts, military regimentation is a shock to most people at the beginning, "everything is wrong" at early inspections is a way to break down the individual mindset to think more about the team approach. You can do everything right but, still fail because that's how it's set up!
    I read much of what's on this forum and feel overwhelmed by the quality of candidates, I feel like it's pointless to even encourage my sons to apply. Don't get me wrong, my sons are great kids but, I'm really not sure they match up to the super-candidates here.

    I deeply and sincerely hope you get some guidance. Bend but, don't break, you have much to offer our country, the Navy and those you'll command.

    An old Salt
     
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    I also sent you a PM.
     
  6. Just_A_Mom

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    I sent you a PM too.
     
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    xrunmariarunx,

    I am not a mid or graduate...just a parent...so maybe my 2 cents won't mean much to you, but...if you haven't already...please go back and read your old posts from last year.

    One post, especially, was very motivating and encouraging to others...maybe it will re-inspire you!

    Good luck to you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers!
     
  8. xrunmariarunx

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    I'm sorry....but I'm leaving....I'm tired of feeling academically and socially inept all the time. I'm tired of the nights where I cry myself to sleep. I don't belong with this place. Thank you for your words of encouragement, but I have made my decision.
     
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    I know this may be personal, but I was hoping that you could expand upon this? Did you not feel as if you prepared enough in high school academically for the Academy and what do you mean by socially inept?
     
  10. xrunmariarunx

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    It takes me a lot longer than most mids to soak up the material, and with plebe year, you're only given so much time to work on things. Repetition is usually the best way for me to learn new coursework....And yes, some of the hardest classes for me, like chemistry, I was spoonfed chem in high school which I feel hurt me a lot. My high school wasn't the best since it did not offer many advanced classes. Socially inept---I find it hard to interact with people of the same personality type. I can only take so much of Type A and their do whatever it takes to succeed attitudes.
     
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    My heart is just breaking for you. I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time. I wish there was something I could do to make it easier... is there any way you can stick it out for the rest of the year? Spring is *almost* here and you know how fast spring flies by. It'll be June before you know it. Big hugs...
     
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    I know you've said that you made your decision, but it may be a bit rash. Think about it from every angle. Think about if you did stay and looked back at this time and said "phew, glad I didn't make that mistake." Or think about if you do quit and later look back all your life and say "man, I really wish I had stuck it out." The others are right on this forum, spring break is almost here and soon after that June. Second year will probably be a ton different than Plebe year for you. Have you talked to your professors in the classes you are having difficulty in? Have you talked to your company mates? You and every Plebe are supposed to feel like you do right now, don't do something you'll regret later on this big a scale. WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU! :shake::shake::shake:
     
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    Sent you a PM, Maria.
    Good luck.
     
  14. usna1985

    usna1985 USNA Alumnus

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    Folks, USNA isn't right for everyone. USNA's process for leaving is intended to ensure that people are leaving for the right reasons and that it's a well thought out (not a rash) decision.

    I went through this when I left the USN. Some of my senior officers were very supportive and recognized that, as an adult, I'd made an adult decision to do something else with my life and did what they could to make my transition as smooth as possible. Others more or less treated me as something b/t a foolish child and a traitor. My life after the USN has turned out very well and I'm still thankful and appreciative of my years in the USN -- and for those who supported me in the transition.

    We don't know the OP personally; the folks at USNA do. Please let the OP move through this and let USNA handle it. If leaving is the right thing for her (I believe the OP is female), she should go. If, in the end, she decides to stay, it needs to be her decision.
     
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    usna1985 USNA Alumnus

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    Unfortunately, what started out as a serious post and a legit question has veered a bit out of control. As the forum mod, I apologize for allowing this to happen and shoulder my share of the blame in this.

    xrunmariarunx, my sincere apologies including my apparently misunderstood 2nd PM; if you read this, please re-read my first PM to you on how to proceed with submitting your resignation. I can only say that, as a female grad who saw 30% of her female classmates -- including a roommate -- depart, I do understand some of what you're going through.

    I'm locking this thread b/c it's outlived its usefulness.
     
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