Life of Female Marine Officer

Discussion in 'Life After the Academy' started by kar57, Apr 25, 2013.

  1. kar57

    kar57 Member

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    Just received this message from DD …”still waiting in Atlanta. Baby is anxious to visit her 4th country in 5 months. She’s dancing up a storm. :smile:

    My daughter, mother-to-be of the dancing baby, is a USNA grad, Marine officer, married to USNA grad, SEAL – 5 months pregnant with their first child. Four days ago she arrived “home” – Pearl Harbor - after her assignment to the Phillipines to be at last reunited with her husband. Now the two, well three really, traveling together this time, are on their way to his brother’s wedding – best man duties to be carried out in yet another country. During my Marine officer daughter's five months of pregnancy so far: moved to base housing, traveled to 4 foreign countries, 4 U.S. states – flown gobs of hours to all these destinations, criss- crossing times zones and the international date line. It’s been everything from palm trees to snow covered mountains, coconuts, cockroaches, Marine maternity uniforms, garbage strewn streets, -20 degrees, 106 degrees, 5 hours sleep over 3 day stretches, no phone access for weeks at a time, many weeks thousands of miles away from her husband, all the while maintaining a level head, following orders to a T, giving orders, leading her Marines with “gritty” grace, and still being a young woman who while brushing her teeth late at night, after work, all those thousands of miles away from everyone and everything familiar, would sing to her swollen belly and see their baby dance! :wiggle: A female Marine Officer’s life is amazing to this civilian (grandma-to-be) observer! Semper Fi!
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  2. scoutpilot

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    I'm wondering exactly what she's up to, since pregnancy is technically a non-deployable condition.
     
  3. kar57

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    She wasn't "deployed" - she was on "temporary assignment"... and scoutpilot, I've got to apologize because I only have a very sketchy (at best) notion about what the assignment was :confused: I DO know where she was, sort of, and it was hot and there were cockroaches and garbage and shoeless wandering toddlers in the streets and one of her meals was in a restaurant where the chicken dish came complete with bones and feathers. :eek: That kind of info is "permitted" to be shared with me - I'm only a civilian without any kind of security clearance, just a plain old Mom in the Midwest. :smile: I CAN tell you that a couple years back she was definitely deployed... 9 months in Afghanistan and that was before she was even married. The life of those in the military is both mysterious and amazing - at least to this civilian!:smile:
     
  4. AF6872

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    TPG:

    My Marine Officer Daughter is also thinking about law school as soon as she makes 1Lt. Any suggestions or tips? TDY has always been a catch all for anywhere they want to send you.
     
  5. kar57

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    Another glimpse into a female Marine officer’s life...

    ^That statement isn’t entirely true.
    When our Marine Officer daughter first deployed to Afghanistan she was single, that part’s true. But while there, actually 3 months into her deployment, that status changed, she got married while she was there – even though neither she nor her husband attended their ceremony.
    www.proxymarriage.com/Military

    Daughter and son-in-law did this knowing how long it takes to get duty station change requests approved. He’s Navy, she’s Marine and they were hoping to have the chance to have a home together for the times neither would be deployed.

    Once she returned from Afghanistan (as a married woman), there was the big traditional wedding ceremony with both bride and groom present, and guests and food and dancing – with only a handful knowing these two had already tied the knot. Even with all that – the approval didn’t come until 19 months after their double proxy marriage, 14 months after the traditional wedding, and another deployment and a couple assignments thrown in for good measure. During that year + waiting for approval, they maintained their separate homes in two different states, a half day’s drive apart. But now, their duty stations are close enough together that they share one home. They relish their time together in their house, knowing that time together will be fleeting for some years to come, yet knowing that upon their return from wherever, they will be home, together. ...And he might even be able to be at her side when their baby arrives in a few months. Time will tell. :smile:

    Here is the Montana State Law regarding proxy marriages:
    40-1-301. Solemnization and registration
    (1) A marriage may be solemnized by a judge of a court of record, by a
    public official whose powers include solemnization of marriages, by a
    mayor, city judge, or justice of the peace, by a tribal judge, or in
    accordance with any mode of solemnization recognized by any religious
    denomination, Indian nation or tribe, or native group. Either the person
    solemnizing the marriage or, if no individual acting alone solemnized the
    marriage, a party to the marriage shall complete the marriage certificate
    form and forward it to the clerk of the district court.
    (2) If a party to a marriage is unable to be present at the solemnization,
    the party may authorize in writing a third person to act as proxy. If the
    person solemnizing the marriage is satisfied that the absent party is
    unable to be present and has consented to the marriage, the person
    may solemnize the marriage by proxy. If the person solemnizing the
    marriage is not satisfied, the parties may petition the district court for
    an order permitting the marriage to be solemnized by proxy.
    (3) The solemnization of the marriage is not invalidated by the fact that
    the person solemnizing the marriage was not legally qualified to
    solemnize it if either party to the marriage believed that person to be
    qualified.
    (4) One party to a proxy marriage must be a member of the
    armed forces of the United States on federal active duty or a
    resident of Montana at the time of application for a license and
    certificate pursuant to 40-1-202. One party or a legal representative
    shall appear before the clerk of court and pay the marriage license fee.
    For the purposes of this subsection, residency must be determined in
    accordance with 1-1-215.
     
  6. Hurricane12

    Hurricane12 USNA 2012

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    Your daughter's probably tracking on it (she's adj, right?), but the Marine Corps has something called the Funded Law Education Program (FLEP) in which currently serving officers go to law school and then are laterally transferred to 4402 (JAG), presumably incurring an additional service requirement.

    Relevant MARADMIN:

    http://www.marines.mil/News/Messages/MessagesDisplay/tabid/13286/Article/110459/fy13-funded-law-education-program-flep-excess-leave-program-elp-and-college-deg.aspx
     
  7. AF6872

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    TPG / Hurricane:

    Two different tracks to the same goal. (Adj. correct and loves her assignment). TBG good luck to her at TBS. Somewhere along the line they don't tell us anything.
     
  8. AF6872

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    She also has the Burke Scholarship award which if she accepts means more years. She wants to think about the extra years but so far she loves the Marine Corps and her current duty assignment. Two years in and she is not ready to make that decision. As I think you said before TPG, Beaufort SC and that area is a beautiful place. My daughter liked Kings Bay (still thinking Navy) during one summer at USNA. Especially driving a Boomer. Captain was from the same Company at USNA. My stupid you meant paridise at Kaneohe Bay when she went Marine. I put that in for my daughter's first choice, she didn't. Didn't work out. Have a great time. Port Royal isn't bad either.
     
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    Friend of mine's daughter recievied the Jefferson Scholarship to UVA. He bought a great house in North Carolina with the left over money.:thumb: Hope our daughters can meet up some time just to say hello!
     
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    TPG:

    Glad they put all those together. Rooming with the caliber of Jefferson could be tough if they were on different tracks and different ability and different ages. Although anyone at UVA could probably handle almost anything thrown at them. Unless of course they got VMI and could then certainly handle anything.

    "Women at VMI. What next? Men at Virginia?" Old bumper sticker.:shake:
     

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