The Fraternity needs to be reported to the school and the national headquarters. My son's fraternity was put on suspension for hazing that was things like having to stay in the Baptist Campus Ministry and wear polo and khaki's to class. Basically his school had super strict anti hazing rules. Some like the ones I put I thought were getting ridiculous camping out in a on campus building and dressing nice for class shouldn't be considered hazing.
But he was greatly appreciated by the brothers and associates for remaining sober at Rush and regular activities. He is 17 yet they nicknamed him 'Dad'. If he told you you were cut off, to back off a girl or go lay down you had to. You may think you have to do this that or the other but if those things are not right for you, against your values or going to remove your ability to have the career you want then it isn't the right fraternity for you.
Standing up for your values isn't something that should be considered a choice you can't make. Making the choice to do the right thing is leadership! Isn't that what you are trying to be, LEADERS?