Parents of Class of 2020 Facebook group

ca2midwestmom said:
^has your DS/DD accepted their appointment? You will only be added to the official class page once that happens. Does your DD/DS have a different last name? If so that needs to be noted. PM Deb Dalton for the class parents page & one of the admin for the moms page (or any other page - prayer, etc). Hope that helps
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Thank you. Yes, he accepted the appointment the same day. :)
I could not find a Deb Dalton as a username on this forum, but a search did turn up her email address at the USMA. I have emailed her. I'm sure we'll hear back shortly. Thanks again.
 
As the mom who started the facebook page West Point Moms back in 2008, I do have an opinion here. =) Facebook/social media is not for everyone. However, West Point has several official social media sources of information, so unless you're on fb, you're cutting off a few channels right there. West Point Moms is the only unofficial page that the parent liaison participates on. We do tend to get info pretty fast--and it's generally accurate. Yes, you can email someone and wait for an answer, or you can check our HUGE file section and get the name of a place that will deliver a cake pronto, where to stay, how to log in to network from home, etc.... Are the moms more powerful than the supe? No, of course not...but when it comes to our cadets, we tend to get things done (most notably, transportation issues around holidays and/or bad weather). (Oh yeah...there's the little incident of the mom fundraiser for Fisher House where we raised $50,000, all due to facebook contact). I guess if I didn't care about meeting other parents or learning a thing or two (which all info is out there for those who have a google button, btw), I would get on facebook to get pictures of my cadet during beast. Again, there's info out there for those who want it and there's camaraderie for those that want that. If facebook is your thing and your request isn't approved, please check your inbox for a PM from an admin, answer the requested info, and you'll be admitted shortly. If you don't hear back, send a private message (PM) to an admin. As we like to say, "We're the West Point Moms and we're here to help."
 
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mom3boys said:
As we like to say, "We're the West Point Moms and we're here to help."
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The only thing that consistently bothers me is that so many cadets prefer to "ask Mommy" for answers to questions or to solve problems instead of using their chain of command.
 
Dixieland said:
The only thing that consistently bothers me is that so many cadets prefer to "ask Mommy" for answers to questions or to solve problems instead of using their chain of command.
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I agree; but we do say over and over and over "ask the chain of command." Now that we can block comments on a thread, we can really enforce that sentiment. =)
 
If you don't know what is on the various FB pages, then how do you know you have missed nothing of importance?
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Because nothing on any form of social media is important in my life. My son is an adult, and I do not need to be a part of this process at all. If he misses a bus or forgets part of his uniform or needs a ride or loses his rifle, etc., that is not on me. He will figure all this stuff out without help from mom or mom's virtual friends as dealing with the consequences of his behaviors is part of growing up. And I'm pretty sure the U.S. Army does not require any help from me or any other parent.

I am only a guest in my son's life now; he has a salary and his own healthcare and a place with be for at least the next nine years. I do not have any responsibility (nor should I) to step into his adult life on any level or rely on social media to vicariously insert myself into his experience. I don't need support from other parents because I am not the one going to West Point, and I'm not confused on that point, though I think it is perfectly fine for other parents to want to share stories and photos and build a community on social media. (Heck, I'm here, aren't I?) I get what I need directly from my son, but very little of that need has anything to do with WP, thus there is nothing about WP that is important to my life.

Really not trying to rain on anyone's parade here or judge anyone for how they use social media or how involved they want to be in their adult children's lives which is why I amended my original comment to point to me only. Carry on.
 
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VelveteenR said:
Because nothing on any form of social media is important in my life. My son is an adult, and I do not need to be a part of this process at all. If he misses a bus or forgets part of his uniform or needs a ride or loses his rifle, etc., that is not on me. He will figure all this stuff out without help from mom or mom's virtual friends as dealing with the consequences of his behaviors is part of growing up. And I'm pretty sure the U.S. Army does not require any help from me or any other parent.

I am only a guest in my son's life now; he has a salary and his own healthcare and a place with be for at least the next nine years. I do not have any responsibility (nor should I) to step into his adult life on any level or rely on social media to vicariously insert myself into his experience. I don't need support from other parents because I am not the one going to West Point, and I'm not confused on that point, though I think it is perfectly fine for other parents to want to share stories and photos and build a community on social media. (Heck, I'm here, aren't I?) I get what I need directly from my son, but very little of that need has anything to do with WP, thus there is nothing about WP that is important to my life.

Really not trying to rain on anyone's parade here or judge anyone for how they use social media or how involved they want to be in their adult children's lives which is why I amended my original comment to point to me only. Carry on.
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No problem......

.......and thank you for raising a strong independent son. We need more like him.....and......you.

Push Hard, Press Forward
 
I have never been a social media person, but I just had my son set me up with Facebook on my phone just so that I can enjoy the information related to West Point, and will value every trinket of even trivial stuff I can gather; particularly after R day, when I will be suffering from withdrawal from my sons company. Honestly, I dred it.
 
brovol said:
I just hit the check mark requesting to get into the group. What will happen now? Do I need to put my sons information in to confirm I am eligible?
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I had sent the request in several weeks ago, with no response from Mrs. Dalton. I sent her a PM on FB over the weekend, giving her our Cadet's name, our names, and where we live and was added to the group yesterday. Look under the "information" tag on the FB page, find the administrators, and you can reach her personal fb page to be able to send her a pm.
 
Because nothing on any form of social media is important in my life.
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Even Yik Yak?
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Even Yik Yak.

...just had my son set me up with Facebook on my phone just so that I can enjoy the information related to West Point, and will value every trinket of even trivial stuff I can gather; particularly after R day, when I will be suffering from withdrawal from my sons company. Honestly, I dred it.
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FB will keep you in touch with parents and academy events. If you want to understand what's happening realtime in the corps and in the cadets' heads, Yik Yak is the place "if you can stomach it" as I posted elsewhere. You will get the unvarnished and often very humorous experience there if you want it. Is that important to my life? No. Is it a better source of what's important to the cadets? Absolutely.
 
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Most cadets would not want their parents reading Yik Yak. It is for the cadets and not meant as source for parents to know what is important to the cadets.
Reading Yik Yak, IMPO, is far more intrusive on the cadets than FB sites for parents - which are intended for parents - not Yik Yak, which is intended for the cadets.
 
MilitaryMama said:
I had sent the request in several weeks ago, with no response from Mrs. Dalton. I sent her a PM on FB over the weekend, giving her our Cadet's name, our names, and where we live and was added to the group yesterday. Look under the "information" tag on the FB page, find the administrators, and you can reach her personal fb page to be able to send her a pm.
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She approved my request right away. I'm on, and it looks pretty cool.
 
buff81 said:
Most cadets would not want their parents reading Yik Yak. It is for the cadets and not meant as source for parents to know what is important to the cadets.
Reading Yik Yak, IMPO, is far more intrusive on the cadets than FB sites for parents - which are intended for parents - not Yik Yak, which is intended for the cadets.
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Amen. I would have bristled at this sort of oversight as a young man.
 
Actually, our son installed it on my phone over PPW. After a few days, I could not stomach it, so I removed it. But if you really want to know what's going on...
 
2020HD said:
My wife joined FB for this reason over a month ago but her request to join the Parents FB page has gone unanswered. It's entirely possible she didn't "ask" in the correct manner, I don't know.
In either case, if someone in the know could PM me here I can share her real name and hopefully get her linked up properly. thanks
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2020HD, tell your wife to look in her FB Messenger at the filtered messages. There is probably one there waiting for her response. The admin sends a message via Messenger and it just sits there because the admin is not connected to that particular person. Give it a try.....happened to me ;)
 
The 2020 page or West Point Moms? I can help with West Point Moms. Send me a PM w/ her real name and I'll check to see if she's on the "waiting" section or if we never got the request. For 2020, she needs to PM Debra Dalton.
 
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