Still in the game

TWE arrived in Oregon. Game over for me. Not selected to both USMA and USNA. Time to look into ROTC option. My heart is crushed. I thought God wanted me to go to an academy? I've gone through so much and came SO close.... only to be rejected. :confused:
 
So much humor in the midst of so much disappointment. DS is at this moment working on Plan B. He has great options and was buoyed by a very enthusiastic email from a swim coach at Plan B. Life will go on, he will go off to college and we will have an empty place at the dinner table. Someday we will look back on all this as a great life lesson and laugh at our mailbox stalking. But I will be forever grateful for all of you - I am sorry for those of you who have received TWE's along with us today. Keep the faith. DS said way at the beginning of this process that God had already made the decision he just didn't know it yet. Now we know. It was not in his plan for DS this year. Hopefully it will be next year.


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davidhwang said:
TWE arrived in Oregon. Game over for me. Not selected to both USMA and USNA. Time to look into ROTC option. My heart is crushed. I thought God wanted me to go to an academy? I've gone through so much and came SO close.... only to be rejected. :confused:
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Sorry. I've tried very hard not to comment on this thread as I wanted to leave it to the folks involved. However, David happened to trigger one of my pet peeves and I thought it was important to comment (to me anyway). And who knows, it might be useful to other folks here and even lurkers.

Words are important. Words have meaning. The words we use not only reflect our thinking, they also shape our thinking. And if they shape our thinking they also shape our plans, our attitudes, and our future actions.

Rejected is not the right word here, especially for someone who has made it so far in this process. 'Not selected at this time'? Yeah, I can go with that. 'Not competitive enough at this time for my region'? That one works. But rejected is definitely not the right word here. Rejected implies the institution doesn't want you. However, we all know that if you had been a stronger candidate than your competition, you would have been selected.

This isn't to denigrate David or anyone else. You are all fine parents as are your DSs and DDs. We know this because you wouldn't be involved in this process if you weren't. I'm just suggesting that when the smoke clears in a few days or weeks that perhaps thinking about it another way enables you to take ownership, to move forward in a positive manner, embracing your next step, and developing your plan of action whether it be re-applying or sticking with plan B.

Good luck to everyone. I know it hurts right now but I think you'll be surprised by how quickly the future begins to brighten, especially with the right words and the right thinking. And most especially with these fine young people. :thumb:
 
Came home to an empty mailbox but realized it was still sort of early. Just went out to check again....and there it was....the TWE. Now DS has a medical DQ, so part of me was hopeful that it would be like the USMMA one that said "contigent on medical waiver" but no such luck. It's been a long road. I've wanted my boy's dream to come true so badly. I do believe that this is part of God's plan; I just hope DS can see it that way too. We've had no word on the NROTC scholarship, still waiting to hear from USCGA, but he does have USMMA.

Good luck to all of you out there from sunny southern Ca. I wish you and all of your kids the best.
 
My DS always said if he didn't get in he would be a victim of numbers. So many great candidates so few slots.


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Thank you for these words kinnem. Being a military family we are used to "selected" and "not selected" but these may be foreign to others. I've been heartsick as I have watched this thread because I suspected that there were very few BFEs to come at this point. I'm still hopeful for the others-ESP our TN friend.

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People - we have to hold our heads high as do our DS's and DD's. They have so much to be proud of and so do we. We know what they have gone through to get this far and not getting an appointment is nothing to be ashamed of. The mere fact that all these great kids want to serve their country speaks volumes about our nations future. Yes we are very sad in Massachusetts tonight. I still remember how very excited DS was when he called me from NASS last year. AS his mom, it was a lightbulb moment - my child had found his calling, his place in the world and it was Annapolis and USNA. Sadly, the admissions department never heard his enthusiasm - never knew how much he wanted to be a Plebe this year. Yes, maybe his math grades were not the best in the lot, but he was an excellent candidate in all other respects. If they chose on heart and desire, he would have received an LOA. My only hope is that all that were lucky enough to receive a BFE this year know how fortunate they are and make the most out of USNA. I hope that because some are great on paper they will be equally great Mids. I have read 50 -60 drop out during Plebe summer. My DS would not have done that. He was mentally ready for the challenge. Maybe next year will be his year. A young man as excited as he was last June just has to be given a chance.
 
TWE today. Still in the running for an appointment from Westpoint however.

While I can't help but feel a little bummed, there are people out there that live without running water and are starving. Who am I to complain to attend an instateU on a partial scholarship?

Regardless, I plan on making this next year an adventure, and I also plan on reapplying for the class of 2019.

Good luck to all the rest of you on your journey.
 
Uggggggghhhhh! My favorite thread just makes me want to cry. So very sad. I know all of your amazing DS & DD will accomplish greatness, or they would not have been here to begin with. :frown::frown::frown::frown:
 
As a long time thread and mailbox stalker, my heart breaks to see so many TWE's over the past couple days. My dad and I have been following you all along this journey.

I received a BFE today. My family and I are very excited and in a bit of shock. Though I am not a frequent poster, I want to thank you all for the emotional support and must applaud this community.

Good luck to those still on the island and DON'T GIVE UP THE SHIP!

EDIT: just posted on the appointment thread. Floridian checking in.
 
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Yep, It's officially set in. I feel like crying.

This forum has provided me with so much support and help over my entire application process. Thank you for everyone who helped me, giving me advice on my application and everything. :)
 
I was dreading the thought of reading of another TWE. So happy for you mb1395, congratulations. At last, good news... hopefully, more good news to come to those still in the game. Sending cheers and the wave here from the stands!
 
Off the Navy Island - but on to the Air Force

Well, we received the dreaded TWE today from USNA. DS disappointed, as Navy was the shining star that caught his attention as a mid-schooler. However, he has received an appointment to the USAFA - and DS has just confessed that he was leaning USAFA anyway should he get the USNA appointment. His Dad and I see this as a very clear direction where the Lord would have him serve. Dad will be overjoyed as he is a AF retiree.

As with all the others that have visited this thread multiple times a day - you all have been such a blessing to me and my family as we walked this journey with our son. Now I'm off to learn the AFA lingo (and I was just getting the hang of all that Navy talk!):groupwave:
 
Martinjj congratulations to your DS on USAFA. That is great news. Off we go into the wild blue yonder.....


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Wow! This has been a rocky road, sorry to hear of the many TWE's. Still on the island, but fearful of the rising water.
 
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People - we have to hold our heads high as do our DS's and DD's. They have so much to be proud of and so do we. We know what they have gone through to get this far and not getting an appointment is nothing to be ashamed of. The mere fact that all these great kids want to serve their country speaks volumes about our nations future. Yes we are very sad in Massachusetts tonight. I still remember how very excited DS was when he called me from NASS last year. AS his mom, it was a lightbulb moment - my child had found his calling, his place in the world and it was Annapolis and USNA. Sadly, the admissions department never heard his enthusiasm - never knew how much he wanted to be a Plebe this year. Yes, maybe his math grades were not the best in the lot, but he was an excellent candidate in all other respects. If they chose on heart and desire, he would have received an LOA. My only hope is that all that were lucky enough to receive a BFE this year know how fortunate they are and make the most out of USNA. I hope that because some are great on paper they will be equally great Mids. I have read 50 -60 drop out during Plebe summer. My DS would not have done that. He was mentally ready for the challenge. Maybe next year will be his year. A young man as excited as he was last June just has to be given a chance.
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I feel like you are describing my son in this post, prepswimmom! we haven't gotten the dreaded envelope yet, so we are still in the dark but getting pretty afraid....basically dreading the news, cause if all you guys got TWE's, then we probably will too as I'm CERTAIN all your sons and daughters are excellent applicants as well, maybe better than ds! I'm so thrilled though, with the solidarity this thread has created. I feel like living through the bad and good news with all of you will make the bitter pill easier to swallow - just knowing none of us are alone and we can rejoice with those who were selected. what a blessing! just wish the wait was over, getting weary.
 
Honestly - this may sound crazy but I think getting the TWE was a relief for DS. About a week ago he said he just wanted to know what he was looking forward to. He immediately plowed into Plan B & C to make the best choice. He took charge of his future instead of wallowing in what might have been. I am VERY proud of him. Best of luck To your DS rudyinok.
 
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