Are you serious? I'm not sure what irritates me more, your lack of sensitivity or your presumption to give orders to others. Everybody at some point and time here is a "wannabee". Some people here developed social connections in the process. They have learned to play well with others. Some people, however,...not so much.
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Are you serious? I'm not sure what irritates me more, your lack of sensitivity or your presumption to give orders to others. Everybody at some point and time here is a "wannabee". Some people here developed social connections in the process. They have learned to play well with others. Some people, however,...not so much.
I think there's something really positive and therapeutic about cheering on the ones that are left. I know this will sound wonky, but I kinda wish if ds is going to get a TWE, that we'd have gotten it a few weeks back, so there were still some waiting anxious folks that I could encourage myself! I think it would help me handle any bitterness that might flare up due to my Scottish fighting genes!
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Had a great weekend with my wife and 5 DC. No mail Saturday. Hoping this week brings good things for all. If TWE comes, that will be good so DS knows plan B will be his future. If BFE comes, that will be great.
We are indeed all in this together. Last week was disheartening because of negativity. This week, MY SUGGESTION IS: IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS.
SIMPLY DON'T RESPOND. This method works.
This forum and in particular, this thread has been so helpful to so many. My Dad and Mom, wife, DS and other 4 children have all been helped by the comments here. Last week I considered starting another thread or abandoning the forum altogether because some decided negative comments help. They don't.
I have followed many of you for almost a month now and want to continue to. TWE or BFE for your child or mine does not change that. Thank you to each of you who remain positive either way. Lets all stay on that line.
OK, somebody on the east coast, give us some good news!!!
Had a great weekend with my wife and 5 DC. No mail Saturday. Hoping this week brings good things for all. If TWE comes, that will be good so DS knows plan B will be his future. If BFE comes, that will be great.
We are indeed all in this together. Last week was disheartening because of negativity. This week, MY SUGGESTION IS: IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS.
SIMPLY DON'T RESPOND. This method works.
This forum and in particular, this thread has been so helpful to so many. My Dad and Mom, wife, DS and other 4 children have all been helped by the comments here. Last week I considered starting another thread or abandoning the forum altogether because some decided negative comments help. They don't.
I have followed many of you for almost a month now and want to continue to. TWE or BFE for your child or mine does not change that. Thank you to each of you who remain positive either way. Lets all stay on that line.
OK, somebody on the east coast, give us some good news!!!
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"MY SUGGESTION IS: IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS.
SIMPLY DON'T RESPOND."
Thank you. Like my grandmother used to say, "If only one person is left playing the game it's not quiet a game anymore. " I miss that lady!
Come on 5 PM and the mail.
Waiting in AZ.
hopefull for all
SIMPLY DON'T RESPOND."
Thank you. Like my grandmother used to say, "If only one person is left playing the game it's not quiet a game anymore. " I miss that lady!
Come on 5 PM and the mail.
Waiting in AZ.
hopefull for all
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Well said. I have been reading this thread from the beginning and am floored by the generosity of compassion and support from total strangers. This experience - the good and bad - is unique. The heartbreak of a TWE, after all the years of hard work and dreaming of attending USNA is stomach-turning. The support people get on here can be crucial. They will, in time, embrace the next steps for their DS/DD - the future is bright for all kids that make it this far in such an arduous process - but the fact that so many have stayed on to cheer others on to the finish line speaks volumes about the profound goodness in the types of families these kids are coming from. DS is a reapply. No word yet. Last year was a painful experience, but I can tell those of you with a TWE that it really does get better, the stings fades, and your children will thrive. Our DS/DDs are resilient, and driven. Nothing usually stops them from achieving their goals - and this will be no different. DS turned down West Point last year, as he decided it was the Navy for him. He is at a great school as a college programmer, but has secured an NROTC scholarship for duration of school. He loves his school, NROTC unit, friends, etc. Obviously wants USNA, but realizes he is in a great spot - AND WILL BE A U.S. NAVAL OFFICER - if that TWE rears its ugly head again this year. My hope for peace of mind, and success for those of you on this thread - whichever way it went/goes - is genuine and strong, just like my respect.
I, for one, am benefitting from hearing all perspectives. I appreciate the original "still in the game kids/parents" posting as they process their next steps because I learn from it as we realize we may be doing the same thing in the very near future - either way with BFE or TWE. I think I even benefit from reading the snippy, irritated or negative responses thru this thread.
Isn't that one benefit of communication between humans? we can hear how it "went" for that guy and better process our own reaction when it comes our turn. and through the process of sharing, the first guy gains closure too.
I think how this thread became unique for service academy forums is when it took on its own personal flavor. People became a little more real in this thread, sharing their hearts. I've been reading SAF for several years now, trying to learn as much as I could to prepare for this moment in time. I have rarely seen a thread offering pages and pages of the type of heartfelt support you'd get in real life; they are typically more factual and question/answer in nature. That's not bad at all, its very functional and beneficial! but somehow the mix of people in this rocky boat with USNA this spring in this thread, accomplished that personal connection fairly well for an online forum.
I'm sure for some, this is too much emotion, not enough plain facts - but for others it has become a counselor of sorts. For me, its an examination of all the human responses to such a trying time, which will help me through my own family's response and recovery in the next two weeks.
just some thoughts from my perspective (and yes, we ALL have one and should at least acknowledge that others have one too and respect that) It takes all types, isn't that the saying?
Well said. I have been reading this thread from the beginning and am floored by the generosity of compassion and support from total strangers. This experience - the good and bad - is unique. The heartbreak of a TWE, after all the years of hard work and dreaming of attending USNA is stomach-turning. The support people get on here can be crucial. They will, in time, embrace the next steps for their DS/DD - the future is bright for all kids that make it this far in such an arduous process - but the fact that so many have stayed on to cheer others on to the finish line speaks volumes about the profound goodness in the types of families these kids are coming from. DS is a reapply. No word yet. Last year was a painful experience, but I can tell those of you with a TWE that it really does get better, the stings fades, and your children will thrive. Our DS/DDs are resilient, and driven. Nothing usually stops them from achieving their goals - and this will be no different. DS turned down West Point last year, as he decided it was the Navy for him. He is at a great school as a college programmer, but has secured an NROTC scholarship for duration of school. He loves his school, NROTC unit, friends, etc. Obviously wants USNA, but realizes he is in a great spot - AND WILL BE A U.S. NAVAL OFFICER - if that TWE rears its ugly head again this year. My hope for peace of mind, and success for those of you on this thread - whichever way it went/goes - is genuine and strong, just like my respect.
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momof2017er,
Thank you for sharing your perspective! And that is TRUE perspective, gained from a distance in time. Congrats to your son on his scholarship, and especially best of luck as you wait to hear news the second time around from USNA!
+1 NavyGenerationSkip.Had a great weekend with my wife and 5 DC. No mail Saturday. Hoping this week brings good things for all. If TWE comes, that will be good so DS knows plan B will be his future. If BFE comes, that will be great.
We are indeed all in this together. Last week was disheartening because of negativity. This week, MY SUGGESTION IS: IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS.
SIMPLY DON'T RESPOND. This method works.
This forum and in particular, this thread has been so helpful to so many. My Dad and Mom, wife, DS and other 4 children have all been helped by the comments here. Last week I considered starting another thread or abandoning the forum altogether because some decided negative comments help. They don't.
I have followed many of you for almost a month now and want to continue to. TWE or BFE for your child or mine does not change that. Thank you to each of you who remain positive either way. Lets all stay on that line.
OK, somebody on the east coast, give us some good news!!!
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Thank you for that. As I started this thread, I feel somewhat responsible for it's life. I agree with you, that the people I have come to know over the past month have truly amazed me with their compassion and generosity of spirit and has shown me what "the kindness of strangers" actually means. As my mother used to say - "if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all"..
I for one will stay on until I hear news, good or bad, from all my forum friends. I will either send up the biggest YIPPEE or I will be there to offer words of support and encouragement. Either way - I will see this through until USNA has mailed the last envelope. Just because DS did not get in this year, he is not done so we are still learning from all that check in.
Happy Stalking to all! Sending good thoughts your way.
Will Do USNA1985.
For the record, my DS received a TWE in 2012 and did reapply. My family has felt what some of you may be going through. DS did receive and used his NROTC scholarship for freshman year at State U., then through persistence re-applied during freshman year and was ultimately accepted to USNA.
On another note, I think in a post 2-3 years ago, USNA1985 said it best, the ultimate goal is to be an officer in the United States Navy or United States Marine Corps. Any commissioning route is just as good as the other!
Good luck to everyone whether it be USNA, NROTC, OCS, NAPS or Foundation!
East coast mailbox had no news from USNA.
We have found out from our MOC (he visited my ds's high school today for a question and answer time with all jr's and senior's) that 2 appointments from our district have been offered. He specifically checked the status of ds this morning and it said "pending". He offered hope and said "we are still in it."
While we remain hopeful, we proceed with A-2, and A-3.
A-2, West point offered appointment in February and we will visit there next week for an overnight. They are requesting an answer Apr 15.
A-3, VMI 4yr NROTC Scholarship and we will visit there next week as well.
I will continue to update until we recieve a definate answer.
We are so appreciative of your support, those with a BFE, a TWE, and those still in it. Thank you for not letting negative comments from a few keep you away. It shows your true character. If your sons or daughters are anything like you, I would consider it an honor for my ds to serve along side them!
God bless!
We have found out from our MOC (he visited my ds's high school today for a question and answer time with all jr's and senior's) that 2 appointments from our district have been offered. He specifically checked the status of ds this morning and it said "pending". He offered hope and said "we are still in it."
While we remain hopeful, we proceed with A-2, and A-3.
A-2, West point offered appointment in February and we will visit there next week for an overnight. They are requesting an answer Apr 15.
A-3, VMI 4yr NROTC Scholarship and we will visit there next week as well.
I will continue to update until we recieve a definate answer.
We are so appreciative of your support, those with a BFE, a TWE, and those still in it. Thank you for not letting negative comments from a few keep you away. It shows your true character. If your sons or daughters are anything like you, I would consider it an honor for my ds to serve along side them!
God bless!
Smith, if you dont mind what district are you in?
East coast mailbox had no news from USNA.
We have found out from our MOC (he visited my ds's high school today for a question and answer time with all jr's and senior's) that 2 appointments from our district have been offered. He specifically checked the status of ds this morning and it said "pending". He offered hope and said "we are still in it."
While we remain hopeful, we proceed with A-2, and A-3.
A-2, West point offered appointment in February and we will visit there next week for an overnight. They are requesting an answer Apr 15.
A-3, VMI 4yr NROTC Scholarship and we will visit there next week as well.
I will continue to update until we recieve a definate answer.
We are so appreciative of your support, those with a BFE, a TWE, and those still in it. Thank you for not letting negative comments from a few keep you away. It shows your true character. If your sons or daughters are anything like you, I would consider it an honor for my ds to serve along side them!
God bless!
yay, famof8! you're still in the game
!And some pretty nice A2's&3's
We are SWVa.