Still in the game

Well if he was on the brink this year, a year of studying engineering and participating in collegiate crew can only bring better things next year! To think of how many classes he will validate at USNA with a year of college under his belt ;)

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So sorry Currey for the TWE. We will most likely be seeing you on here in the future as we reapply and proceed for now with plan B. I agree with prepswimmom. What they did was awful.
 
Nollie said:
So sorry Currey for the TWE. We will most likely be seeing you on here in the future as we reapply and proceed for now with plan B. I agree with prepswimmom. What they did was awful.
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Really-awful? They tried to make it work and it did not. Should they have just denied him months ago? I think the attitudes displayed here (negative toward RAs, calling admissions awful) really speaks volumes about whether or not some folks "get" the military. This may be the least disappointed you will be in your kids' hopeful military career. This is not a "normal" college process nor is this a career subject to the normal expectations (you were number one so you get a raise-in this world one year you are number 1 the next you are 2 and don't get promoted). The military is extremely rewarding but it's also full of frustrations. My personal thought is that some of the posters here need to really evaluate their expectations of both the process and the life (and perhaps their kids should too). USNA acceptance is not the ultimate goal- it is one means to an end (officer). If you don't understand what that truly entails re-evaluate the goal. We've seen a steady increase in the entitlement "everyone gets a trophy" mentality in some junior officers over the past several years and it's just sickening. Don't encourage this in your kids- it won't help them later.

Good luck to all re-applying and happy Armed Forces Day.
 
Great reply 2018midmom. I could not agree with you more. The entitlement mentality in our society today continues to be on the rise. I've spent the past 38 years in the corporate world and see this on a daily basis, especially from the millennial crowd who expect things handed to them without having to earn it like those before them. I suspect some of this stems from the way they are raised and for me personally, I find it sickening. The service academies cannot and should not accommodate every person wanting to get in. Doing so would diminish the value it represents. My 2 cents ..
 
Currey, sorry to hear about the TWE. Congratulations tho on your DS being so close that they took this long. Good luck with plan A2! We may see you next year on the reapply thread.
 
WHo are you people?

This group has been together for many many months. We have been through lots of up and downs. We have held each others hands and made each other laugh. Most of us got bad news and have moved on and cherished the time we all spent wringing our hands waiting. if we want to console our friend who was made to wait for one month after everyone else was told SOMETHING…by April 15th everyone was told then would know...yes, no, wait list, naps, naps wait list….except for her son who was told…we will let you know when we can. You will all have to agree that to have to wait an additional month to hear ANYTHING was quite anxiety provoking. What she went through was hard. And what she went through was awful. How dare we have to hear a lecture about entitlement from you people. This has nothing to do with kids feeling entitled or parents raising them to feel entitled. this has to do with kind and sympathetic friends saying we are sorry you were pulled out and made to wait longer than everyone else only to be told no. Why are you even on this thread?
 
I never got the sense that anybody was feeling entitled here. If your son or daughter received an appointment, congratulations! But why do you have to come stomp on somebody else, especially when you're assigning motives. Really? Mrs. M, I'm with you here. This thread has become a community of which I feel privileged to have been a part, even though as a quiet lurker until today.
 
mrs. m said:
WHo are you people?

This group has been together for many many months. We have been through lots of up and downs. We have held each others hands and made each other laugh. Most of us got bad news and have moved on and cherished the time we all spent wringing our hands waiting. if we want to console our friend who was made to wait for one month after everyone else was told SOMETHING…by April 15th everyone was told then would know...yes, no, wait list, naps, naps wait list….except for her son who was told…we will let you know when we can. You will all have to agree that to have to wait an additional month to hear ANYTHING was quite anxiety provoking. What she went through was hard. And what she went through was awful. How dare we have to hear a lecture about entitlement from you people. This has nothing to do with kids feeling entitled or parents raising them to feel entitled. this has to do with kind and sympathetic friends saying we are sorry you were pulled out and made to wait longer than everyone else only to be told no. Why are you even on this thread?
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Mrs.m this time I have to quote you 100%. :shake: Currey, I am so sorry to hear about TWE. I was here all the time, checking and re-checking on all my friends, yes friends, this what we become after this long exhausting application process. I wish you best!
 
mrs. m said:
WHo are you people?

This group has been together for many many months. We have been through lots of up and downs. We have held each others hands and made each other laugh. Most of us got bad news and have moved on and cherished the time we all spent wringing our hands waiting. if we want to console our friend who was made to wait for one month after everyone else was told SOMETHING…by April 15th everyone was told then would know...yes, no, wait list, naps, naps wait list….except for her son who was told…we will let you know when we can. You will all have to agree that to have to wait an additional month to hear ANYTHING was quite anxiety provoking. What she went through was hard. And what she went through was awful. How dare we have to hear a lecture about entitlement from you people. This has nothing to do with kids feeling entitled or parents raising them to feel entitled. this has to do with kind and sympathetic friends saying we are sorry you were pulled out and made to wait longer than everyone else only to be told no. Why are you even on this thread?
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First-I'm on this thread hoping that some of the principals who were not appointed get good news but I really don't have to explain that to you.

Second-We are also members of this forum who have every right to post just as you. Even your friend corrected another poster who suggested currey's son was slighted by admissions. There is a difference between consoling a friend and saying the situation is awful and actually calling the treatment by admissions awful. Scroll back through this thread and look at the nasty turn it took when some of the TWEs started coming. Esp check out the OPs rant on RAs (maybe you agreed with her) after her DS got the TWE. This thread has become a sad sad place. Console your friend but bashing admissions for their decisions is just bad form. And for the record, no one has expressed an issue with consoling currey. I personally believed the kid would get in and was sad when he didn't. Reread my post- esp the "needs to re-evaluate" category.

Maybe it's time to take your private stuff truly private or at least realize that others are reading what you post and may respond.
 
2018midmom said:
First-I'm on this thread hoping that some of the principals who were not appointed get good news but I really don't have to explain that to you.

Second-We are also members of this forum who have every right to post just as you. Even your friend corrected another poster who suggested currey's son was slighted by admissions. There is a difference between consoling a friend and saying the situation is awful and actually calling the treatment by admissions awful. Scroll back through this thread and look at the nasty turn it took when some of the TWEs started coming. Esp check out the OPs rant on RAs (maybe you agreed with her) after her DS got the TWE. This thread has become a sad sad place. Console your friend but bashing admissions for their decisions is just bad form. And for the record, no one has expressed an issue with consoling currey. I personally believed the kid would get in and was sad when he didn't. Reread my post- esp the "needs to re-evaluate" category.

Maybe it's time to take your private stuff truly private or at least realize that others are reading what you post and may respond.
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Maybe instead of bashing people in this thread, you shouldn't click on it. No one is forceing you to keep posting here.
 
She asked a question I answered. I'm not bashing anyone purposefully I just think there are some here who need to be told some truth and quite frankly stop whining about the process, the stats of kids who got in v their kids stats, recruited athletes, etc. this isn't high school girl drama-it's the military. If this attitude carries over to their applicants, the applicants are the ones who will suffer. If you don't want advice from folks who have been through it-then form a closed group and hold hands. There are a lot of folks here like me who want to help others be successful. Sometimes the suggestions toward that end aren't always warm and fuzzy.
 
There comes a time when it is usually best to stop digging. The hole is deep enough.
 
Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances. -Thomas Jefferson

Folks, as a group can we agree that we all deal with the stressors of this circumstance a bit differently? Some shell up and others have to talk it out. As the aforementioned party that had to box stalk longer, I say thank you for your concern all of you. As the mom/educator/enforcement agent I say apologize and make nice or you all will be locked into a long bout of ranch chores till you are all in lock step with eachother.:rolleyes:

For a bit of humor to close this out and a true story. When a friend and I picked up my DS at the airport coming back for NASS, my friend asked him what his favorite part was. Of all the things he could choose...he chose INDOC. She jokingly asked him if he told the Navy that the love of that particular part of NASS came from dear ole MOM? He quickly and stonefaced replied, " No Ma'am, not advisable on either front Ma'am."

It made me smile and chuckle while driving and love my DS just a bit more.

Now go find a damned goat and hug it! XOXOX- :cool:Currey
 
Folks,

Let's remember to be respectful of fellow posters -- and sensitive to what is a tough time for many.

I would add that expressing disappointment does not necessarily equal expressing a sense of entitlement.

What this process has taught some is a hard lesson of life -- doing your very best, working your hardest, wanting something very badly . . . those do not always lead to success the first time or the way in which you'd intended.

However, if you persevere in the above things, you usually will win out in the end. The path may simply be a different one than you'd intended to take.

Your Friendly Mod
 
usna1985 said:
Folks,

Let's remember to be respectful of fellow posters -- and sensitive to what is a tough time for many.

I would add that expressing disappointment does not necessarily equal expressing a sense of entitlement.

What this process has taught some is a hard lesson of life -- doing your very best, working your hardest, wanting something very badly . . . those do not always lead to success the first time or the way in which you'd intended.

However, if you persevere in the above things, you usually will win out in the end. The path may simply be a different one than you'd intended to take.

Your Friendly Mod
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Thank you! Well said. :thumb:
 
currey said:
Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances. -Thomas Jefferson

Folks, as a group can we agree that we all deal with the stressors of this circumstance a bit differently? Some shell up and others have to talk it out. As the aforementioned party that had to box stalk longer, I say thank you for your concern all of you. As the mom/educator/enforcement agent I say apologize and make nice or you all will be locked into a long bout of ranch chores till you are all in lock step with eachother.:rolleyes:

For a bit of humor to close this out and a true story. When a friend and I picked up my DS at the airport coming back for NASS, my friend asked him what his favorite part was. Of all the things he could choose...he chose INDOC. She jokingly asked him if he told the Navy that the love of that particular part of NASS came from dear ole MOM? He quickly and stonefaced replied, " No Ma'am, not advisable on either front Ma'am."

It made me smile and chuckle while driving and love my DS just a bit more.

Now go find a damned goat and hug it! XOXOX- :cool:Currey
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While following this thread, I've been impressed with Currey's objectivity and calm, cool manner--kudos on showing us all how to handle a stressful situation--and thanks for sharing Mr. Jefferson's advice, wise man. If your son has an ounce of what you've displayed, he'll be a great Naval Officer. I'm sure you've heard it before, but USNA looks very favorably on college applicants. I know of several who are doing great at USNA, both in leadership roles and academically. Mech E major with a sport will serve your son well if he goes through the reapplication process. He won't have to "add to his resume", he just needs to show he can handle a heavy college load along with other responsibilities and do well. Best of luck to both you and your son (not so sure about that goat hugging though; they can be prickly....). :smile:
 
2018midmom said:
Really-awful? They tried to make it work and it did not. Should they have just denied him months ago? I think the attitudes displayed here (negative toward RAs, calling admissions awful) really speaks volumes about whether or not some folks "get" the military. This may be the least disappointed you will be in your kids' hopeful military career. This is not a "normal" college process nor is this a career subject to the normal expectations (you were number one so you get a raise-in this world one year you are number 1 the next you are 2 and don't get promoted). The military is extremely rewarding but it's also full of frustrations. My personal thought is that some of the posters here need to really evaluate their expectations of both the process and the life (and perhaps their kids should too). USNA acceptance is not the ultimate goal- it is one means to an end (officer). If you don't understand what that truly entails re-evaluate the goal. We've seen a steady increase in the entitlement "everyone gets a trophy" mentality in some junior officers over the past several years and it's just sickening. Don't encourage this in your kids- it won't help them later.

Good luck to all re-applying and happy Armed Forces Day.
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I don't mean to sound negative Nellie - and obviously none of us know the background conversations that went on while the wait was endured. And I am so NOT one of those "everyone deserves a trophy" mom's - in fact I am quite the opposite. And I have learned much about USNA admissions in the past year, it has been an eye opening experience. But as a parent completely new to this military process, and I mean brand new, the logic just seems to be lacking in the admissions process. I realize service to our country is the ultimate goal - one that can be achieved in many ways. But as a mom of 3 who just went thru the college process with my oldest child, I witnessed the high and lows, the anxiety, the "where will I go", "where should I apply", "when will I hear" stress of senior year. And as a mom, I felt sorry for a senior who was kept waiting far beyond the expected time frame for an answer. Perhaps "Awful" was a poor choice of words - But as we all know, the emotional roller coaster is a tough one, and when I saw the post from Currey my inner mom came out. Best of luck to everyone's kids where ever the road may lead. I am sure great things are in all their futures.
 
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