. . . . I've already been appointed to USNA . . . .
thehoaxbuster,
It really sounds to me that your true destiny is USNA.
First, I have to commend you for not only standing toe-to-toe with Pima, but doing it in such a professional, non-argumentitive way. From my perspective, you are showing a combination of fortitude and courtesy that few possess. Kudos to you on that.
Second, you are learning that your life will be shaped by a whole confluence of factors, some of which are within your control and some of which are not. More important, you are also learning that mistakes resulting from ignorance and assumptions will hurt you. But don't fret, you haven't made a FRACTION of the mistakes that most of us have made in our lives (this is actually called "experience"). In fact, I've even made some BIG ones in the past few months. Just remember, though, that mistakes happen for a reason, mostly to educate us not to make the same mistakes again when people's lives are on the line or when you are faced with a decision that is much more important than simply which SA to attend.
Third, I hope you are in the process of learning that, while you may have made mistakes, don't wring your hands over them or let them cloud your decisionmaking going forward. Instead, educate yourself about your available options going forward (as you are doing extraordinarily well here) and, if other potential options remain, pursue them vigorously until they make themselves available to you or they vanish. If you are able to generate multiple options, then you have a decision to make. If you don't, then the task is much easier because you have NO decision to make.
There is nothing "dishonest" about pursuing multiple paths, such as duplicative MOC and VP nominations. That is the way the system works, and the admissions officers at each of the SAs would be the first to tell you that. In fact, I'd bet even your high-school guidance counselor has advised you and your fellow students to apply to multiple colleges simultaneously and even to apply to "reach" schools in your college search.
In my view, you should pursue AFA vigorously from this point onward. If it doesn't work out, then your decision is easy. And when you show up at USNA on I-Day, don't look at it as if the only reason you're there is because you made some mistakes. Rather, you should be grateful that your mistakes have led you to USNA. At the end of the day, you may surprise yourself with having the options of both USNA and USAFA but deciding to run with USNA anyway after all your hard work to make USAFA an option.
Remember, there are tens of THOUSANDS of young men and women who would give their right arm for what you have right now (an appointment to USNA). I know you recognize this, and it is normal to be indecisive at this point in your life because the decision is a big one (you will become a better decisionmaker as you make more and more decisions over time). But whether your destiny was shaped by you or by things completely out of your control -- either through mistakes you have made or because the athletic director was simply pushing his candidate instead of you -- remember that where you ultimately land is where fate has delivered you.
I think Pima and I share the same desire to help candidates on SAF (as countless others do). That is why, I suspect, she is dishing out the tough medicine to you openly here -- not to offend you, but rather because she knows others will someday be reading this thread and will learn from her posts. I am learning quickly that SAF is a library of "to do's" and "what NOT to do's". And when you graduate from USNA or USAFA someday, you will hopefully be in a position to pay it forward here on SAF.
Good luck to you.