What SHOULD and what IS, are 2 different things. I hate to sound like a bitter bigot, because I'm not, but there are certain double standards. A male having a sexual problem with a woman, will be treated differently than a woman having a sexual problem with a male. A white having a problem with a black, will be treated differently than a black having a problem with a white. A straight having a problem with a gay, will be treated differently than a gay having a problem with a straight. Bottom line: The minority, in whatever the scenario is, will usually be considered more favorably than the majority individual. That's simply the way our society has evolved over the last 30-40 years.