Just to answer your 1st part, concerns over sexual harassment.
Have you investigated the schools she would be using as her plan B? If not, why not? Do you believe they don't have these issues?
I have a DD, and honestly I would feel more comfortable with her at an SA than at a traditional college, she is at a traditional college, one that made headlines...VT Massacre. Why? Because the SAs aren't as quick to sweep it under the rug compared to traditional colleges. The cadets can not only face being kicked out, but also jail time where they make big rocks into little ones. Ft. Leavenworth!
IMPO to survive this world as a Mom or a wife, you need to have faith. You need to believe if this horrible thing would occur, it would occur regardless of where they are. It is their path in life.
Honestly, your DD could go to Columbia, get a job at Goldman Sachs and be sexually harassed there too.
I am a wife of a guy who served 20 yrs as an officer in the AF. I will tell you he saw every female as a sister, respected them for their knowledge as a peer, and defended them if anyone tried to do something "funky".
Finally, I know you meant no offense by the post, you are just trying to gain info, but look at it from the flip side. You just did 3 things.
1. Implied to parents of DS's that they are the harassers. Not something parents will jump up and say: "YEP, my kid does it!"
2. AFA condones it and it is common place.
~~~ Ex: Last week the headlines were every 5 days a kid dies in a pool during the summer. Sounds frightening right? Now, place into the equation that it means maybe 50 kids out of millions. Not as frightening is it?
The same is true for the AFA. Let's say 1 girl a yr is harassed, now place the fact that they have thousands of girls there. Horrible if it is your child, but statistically, the odds are she will be safer there than at a big state University.
3. She will owe 5 yrs at least AD, if this is a concern now, what about when she goes AD; wouldn't she face that in the AD world?
Remember those cadets will also be officers. If you have fear for her at the AFA, trust me it won't dissipate when she is a 2nd LT., especially if she goes UPT. Afterall, in the fighter world the % of females are far less than the % at the AFA. Maybe on a good day, you are looking at 0.1%. Yes, I mean 1 woman in a fighter flying squadron of 70+.
If it was me, I would be 100,000% behind her. You raised a smart DD, you trust her enough to drive a ton of metal at night. Trust her enough to be able to work the system when she feels threatened.
Now is the time to understand what "cutting the apron strings" or "letting them fly" means. If you don't do that you will be a chocolate mess for the next 9 yrs. That comment is meant with love.
Good luck.