Pretty opened ended question but I'll do the best I can. I am not an Aggie. Nobody in our family has been an Aggie. I've had two kids at A&M and both in the Corps, and both spent their formative years in the DC suburbs. Both love A&M and the people the folkls they've met in the Corps. The overload on MAROON is straight trail stuff. Aggies are unique folks, and the Corps kids just a bit more so; but all in a good way. If time and budget allow I strongly suggest an in-person visit, both kid and parent if ya’ll can; kid if you just manage that. There a number of spend the night programs (all of the Senior Military Colleges {SMCs} have ‘em) and I strongly suggest trying to attend one.
It ain’t for everyone, and no college is. Each SMC has their own unique strengths and their own idiosyncrasies, and no SMC is the best or right-est choice for everyone. A&M is a huge school, well over 50,000 undergraduates, and the Corps is about 5% of that; but they are the visible. So unlike the Virginia Military Institute, or The Citadel, cadets take classes with non-cadets during the day. Cadets may be up at 0545 and sitting in a classroom in uniform next to a student who is in pajamas who managed to get up just in time for the 11am class. There be pluses and minuses to everything and it is up to ya’ll to figure what is the best for your son or daughter.
Aggies are friendly folks, seriously friendly, and that holds true for cadets and non-cadets alike. I’ve been on busses with opposing team fans who just beat the tar out of A&M in a game who’ve commented it is unlike anything they’ve ever seen or experienced and everyone was so friendly and welcoming to them.
All that said, in a school of 50,000 you are much more of a number than at a smaller school. You are much less likely to get face-time with a professor as a freshman. There are more out-of-state folks in the Corps than in the school as a whole. Living far away makes Thanksgiving a pain, and homesickness as a freshman a bit harder.
Bottom line, folks are friendly and it is a good place. Corps life is demanding and harder in many ways that a more traditional college experience. A&M cadets, even as freshmen, are less cloistered than those at VMI where our son’s best friend is a now a senior; and that has both advantages and disadvantages. If what you are asking is will an out-of-stater feel out-of-place, probably not. The stereotype of Texas and Texans is more myth than fact, and is true for A&M and cadets as well. If I can provide any additional information ask away.
Best wishes.
Recommend:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsz8sJ68udc. Mr. Smith is a former cadet, and he went back to graduate with a degree later on.
Texas A&M Traditions:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMp2D239fPo