My son is a cadet at USCGA, class of 2025 from Henderson, NV (20 minutes to the Las Vegas Strip). If you can only attend one series of events, which is better, R-Day or Parent's Weekend? This is a difficult question that plagues parents every Swab Summer and 4/C year, especially if the parents are traveling long distances (i.e. extra costs). I am a 20-year US Navy veteran. So, it was important to me to see my son's "Swearing-in Ceremony" on R-day. Two posts above mine, CGA17 stated, "Day one (formerly R-Day) is an emotional day." I wholeheartedly agree! My wife, son, and I decided that I would take him (just the two of us) a few days early to R-day so that we could familiarize ourselves with the local area, explore the campus (I had access via my DOD CAC and retired USN ID card), and view the Swearing-in Ceremony. I will never forget seeing and speaking with my son after the Swearing-in Ceremony. That short 15 (or was it 10?) minutes together was one of the craziest, emotional, and proudest moments of my life as a father! Later that autumn, during Parent's Weekend, my wife, daughter, and I all traveled to visit my son. Since I knew the layout of the campus and local area, it was very convenient for the Mrs. and my daughter. Obviously, I do not know your situation. However, I recommend the following if possible. Have one parent take your child to R-day and then have the other parent visit during Parent's Weekend. Although Parent's Weekend opportunities are available all four years, I think it's important to attend the 4/C first year Parent's Weekend, especially because your child will receive overnight liberty at least one night following the football game on Saturday. I know you're probably thinking, "Why would all this trouble be worth it for one night." In the case of my son, that one night together (dinner, shopping - with a vehicle to take things back to Chase Hall, talking, reminiscing, meeting other cadets and parents, etc. was worth the extra expenditures of a second trip!)
Additional thoughts: 3/C year, my son specifically requested that we NOT come to Parent's Weekend for two factors. First, he was/is too busy with his various musical endeavors at the Academy (music performance on Friday evening and Windjammers performance at the football game). Additionally, it is traditional to a certain degree that 3/C cadets stand a lot of watchstanding duty during that weekend as a payback for the liberty/free time received during their 4/C Parent's Weekend the previous year. Yes, 2/C and 1/C cadets also stand watches during Parent's Weekend if their loved ones aren't coming. I asked my son, "Is this a tradition at USCGA?" He replied, "Yes, but it's not written in stone or anything."
During my son's 2/C year, I traveled to Parent's Weekend alone to of course visit my son, but also eat lunch in the Wardroom. As an enlisted sailor, I was never allowed to even set foot into the Wardroom (Officer's Country) during my career aboard four separate ships. So, eating in the Wardroom (although it's just an over-glorified cafeteria compared to a ship/cutter's Wardroom) with my son was special and important to me (My son said, "Dad you're probably going to be in for a big disappointment - LOL). No, the food was not gourmet or anything, but I did enjoy the Wardroom and seeing where my son eats daily! On Saturday before the football game, my son was busy with Windjammer rehearsal and Physics tutoring for a subordinate 4/C cadet. Being alone that morning afforded me ample opportunities to visit academic buildings that I wasn't able to see during my son's 4/C Parent's Weekend. I scored an awesome visit to the (forget the building name) basement level Bridge Simulators. One simulator room was empty of guests, and I drove (sailed) around New York City and Ellis Island for 20+ minutes uninterrupted without crashing! That was definitely a highlight of the trip! Also, on Friday I attended Operating Systems, Linear Algebra, Databases, and Introduction to Cryptology classes with my son. As a 34-year experienced US Naval and DOD Contractor Electronics Technician, I am ashamed to admit that I was only able to legitimately answer three questions during all four classes (1 in operating systems and 2 in Cryptology). Everything was coding and advanced mathematics. I hadn't a prayer, but attending the classes and meeting other cadets and their parents was fun!
Next year (1/C year), the Mrs. and I will not visit our son during Parent's Weekend. However, we plan to visit during a (non-Parent's Day) weekend that has either a Monday or Friday holiday in addition to a home Bear's football game. Beginning this summer through my son's graduation in 2025 will be crazy because not only do we have to make multiple trips to USCGA, but we also have to travel to Annapolis, MD, 2-3 times because our daughter received an appointment to USNA. My bank account will be taking many hits in 2024-2025. I cannot complain though.