Haveaniceday
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Congratulations to all the Swabs reporting next Monday to begin their 200-week journey to become an Ensign in the USCG; now the real work begins. I see it will be raining and 75 degrees on R-day in New London on Monday! While most accepted Swab's parents have moved to the parent class Facebook website for communication, I wanted to offer a few parting suggestions on this forum:
1. Most incoming Swab's will get little sleep the night before, so plan on staying up with them and keep things light.
2. After processing when they appear as a Battalion on the Parade Field, get the class photo, then are allowed 10 min. to say goodbye to you (if covid protocol allows) this 10 min can go one of two ways: a) Hey mom, this is great, best thing I ever did! or b) Mom, I made a mistake, take me home now! While the ride home with your spouse is significantly easier if your child says a), don't worry if your child is more in the b) camp. Both types cross the stage in equal numbers on graduation day, and the first indoctrination week is not designed to be easy.
3. You will not hear from them for a long time. Mail is slow and privilege's are modest the first few weeks. In this era of instant communication, it can be hard, but hang in there, you will get a letter soon. When you get the letter it may be a) or b), don't worry, it gets better. Keep checking the Facebook site and you will see a photo of your child eventually. Even if you see them on crutches, you know they are hanging in and doing well.
4. Most importantly, write a letter to your Swab now, seal it in an envelope and make sure he/she takes it with them in their backpack for R-day. The outside of the letter should say "Open only when you are thinking about quitting" They are adults, and after being sworn in on Monday, they are soldiers, the academy will not let you know if they decide to quit, often your first indication is when they call from the airport telling you they are coming home and to meet them at the airport. Happens every year. There is an element on these discussion boards that thinks it can't be there kid, my kid wants this life, etc. Well it can be any kid, for example, if his best friend DORs (quits) he/she may too. Basic training, homesickness, injuries, etc. can be a lot and each Swab will consider quitting at one time or another, same as every other solider in every service. So, write the letter, tell them to think about the reasons they applied and accepted and have those reasons changed or are they just having a bad day? Add whatever else you feel is appropriate. Then tell them something to the effect of, "If you are still thinking about coming home, ask to see the Chaplin first before you decide." Chaplin's are the military version of a counselor, the Cadre will get them in the same day or next morning if they ask, as it is a priority tasking to them. Sometimes, getting out of the Swab bubble for 30 min and talking to someone is all they need to re-double their efforts and get back into it. For some, it may be best for them to depart, but this way, you gave them your thoughts first and they spoke to someone about it before leaving so it will be a more informed decision.
Life is a team sport, don't let them go it alone.
Good luck!
1. Most incoming Swab's will get little sleep the night before, so plan on staying up with them and keep things light.
2. After processing when they appear as a Battalion on the Parade Field, get the class photo, then are allowed 10 min. to say goodbye to you (if covid protocol allows) this 10 min can go one of two ways: a) Hey mom, this is great, best thing I ever did! or b) Mom, I made a mistake, take me home now! While the ride home with your spouse is significantly easier if your child says a), don't worry if your child is more in the b) camp. Both types cross the stage in equal numbers on graduation day, and the first indoctrination week is not designed to be easy.
3. You will not hear from them for a long time. Mail is slow and privilege's are modest the first few weeks. In this era of instant communication, it can be hard, but hang in there, you will get a letter soon. When you get the letter it may be a) or b), don't worry, it gets better. Keep checking the Facebook site and you will see a photo of your child eventually. Even if you see them on crutches, you know they are hanging in and doing well.
4. Most importantly, write a letter to your Swab now, seal it in an envelope and make sure he/she takes it with them in their backpack for R-day. The outside of the letter should say "Open only when you are thinking about quitting" They are adults, and after being sworn in on Monday, they are soldiers, the academy will not let you know if they decide to quit, often your first indication is when they call from the airport telling you they are coming home and to meet them at the airport. Happens every year. There is an element on these discussion boards that thinks it can't be there kid, my kid wants this life, etc. Well it can be any kid, for example, if his best friend DORs (quits) he/she may too. Basic training, homesickness, injuries, etc. can be a lot and each Swab will consider quitting at one time or another, same as every other solider in every service. So, write the letter, tell them to think about the reasons they applied and accepted and have those reasons changed or are they just having a bad day? Add whatever else you feel is appropriate. Then tell them something to the effect of, "If you are still thinking about coming home, ask to see the Chaplin first before you decide." Chaplin's are the military version of a counselor, the Cadre will get them in the same day or next morning if they ask, as it is a priority tasking to them. Sometimes, getting out of the Swab bubble for 30 min and talking to someone is all they need to re-double their efforts and get back into it. For some, it may be best for them to depart, but this way, you gave them your thoughts first and they spoke to someone about it before leaving so it will be a more informed decision.
Life is a team sport, don't let them go it alone.
Good luck!