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Whether the "Desire" to have sex and a relationship with the same or opposite sex is innate or a learned behavior, there is obviously a "Choice" whether to have a sexual relationship at all. "There are a lot of celibate people in the world. I actually know quite a few. Not all priests. Some in their 20's, some in their 50/60's. Some are still virgins, some have had sex in the past, and have chosen that is not important to them. "Obviously they are all single". It's not like there's a condition internally that if you don't have a sexual relationship with another person, that you'll explode. "Although some of us think we might".
Point is; and I'm actually glad that the whole "Born/Not Born gay" topic was brought up; that each of us still have choices. We aren't forced to say, act, react, or behave a certain way. Whether gay or straight, we all "Choose" whether to have sexual/physical relationships. We all "Choose" whether we speak openly about it among friends, strangers, family, or co-workers. We all "Choose" to what level we allow others to influence our reactions. There are so many topics of behavior in life that we "Choose" to engage in or speak about. This is simply another topic. Not saying that if a person is gay or straight, that they shouldn't engage in sexual/physical relationships with other people.
Not saying that people shouldn't talk openly about their desires and experiences. Simply that we "CHOOSE" whether we engage and speak about such activities. While I am very passionate about certain topics and activities in my life, I choose not to discuss or participate all of them with everyone. There are certain topics and activities that I don't share with my wife. Others that I don't share with my parents. Others I don't share with my co-workers or friends. Maybe because some of these people aren't into the same things I'm into. Maybe because some of these people would be offended by such topics or activities. I don't discuss religion with some people. I don't discuss politics with some people. I don't discuss sex with some people. And no, there isn't a difference between being gay and talking about it and being a hunter, conservative, catholic, straight, etc... and speaking about those topics. For every topic or behavior on the planet, there WILL be someone that will be offended by that activity or even discussing it. Whether it's a member of PETA around a bunch of hunters, or an extremely left wing liberal surrounded by a group of staunch conservative.
We choose what we say, to whom, at what settings, as well as which activities we engage in around certain people. This topic is no different. If a person wants to parade around and proudly proclaim they are gay or straight, they WILL eventually offend someone. And then, they will be addressed by the situation. Just like a person who wants to proclaim their religious or political beliefs. If they don't "Choose" to monitor their speech and activities, they will eventually offend someone. The difference is; and I eluded to it in a previous post; there are some people who are allowed to express their beliefs and activities, and it doesn't matter if they offend anyone. Those who are offended, are expected to be tolerant and "Suck it up". But if they were to express their beliefs on certain subjects, and it offends certain groups of people, they will be expected to limit their freedom of expression. We all know this double standard exists unfortunately. Anyway; if people would simply be a little considerate of others around them, and not be so selfish about "Their Rights", then we can "Choose" more properly our speech and activities, and who we say and do them around. And when someone says or does something that does offend us; we won't have such thin skin, we'll put it into perspective, and we won't let it bother us.
I agree with every word in this post.