DQ advice for adjustment disorder

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Hello, my son is 17 and has an LOA. He was DQ'd due to adjustment disorder. Due to COVID and isolation from school and friends during his junior winter, when he was 16, he felt isolated. His father and I have a therapist friend who talked with him, but he was never diagnosed formally by a doctor. He was never seen by a doctor. The "therapy" was to help him get through remote schooling due to COVID. We are heartbroken that our parenting decision and honest answers to the DoDMERB questions have resulted in his DQ. He has dreamed of attending the USMA, and is worried. He is waiting to hear if a waiver is requested. My question is this: is a waiver ever granted for a DQ due to an adjustment disorder?
 
Rog1010 said:
Hello, my son is 17 and has an LOA. He was DQ'd due to adjustment disorder. Due to COVID and isolation from school and friends during his junior winter, when he was 16, he felt isolated. His father and I have a therapist friend who talked with him, but he was never diagnosed formally by a doctor. He was never seen by a doctor. The "therapy" was to help him get through remote schooling due to COVID. We are heartbroken that our parenting decision and honest answers to the DoDMERB questions have resulted in his DQ. He has dreamed of attending the USMA, and is worried. He is waiting to hear if a waiver is requested. My question is this: is a waiver ever granted for a DQ due to an adjustment disorder?
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I moved this question to the DODMERB thread where it belongs and you will get the best possible answers and pathway forward from a trusted source @MullenLE and others rather than from well-intentioned but less well informed applicants or parents. Best wishes to your son. We know how frustrating this process can be.
 
DrMom said:
I moved this question to the DODMERB thread where it belongs and you will get the best possible answers and pathway forward from a trusted source @MullenLE and others rather than from well-intentioned but less well informed applicants or parents. Best wishes to your son. We know how frustrating this process can be.
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Thank you so much.
 
APPLICANT SON: If you’d like, you may send me an email: lawrence.e.mullen.civ@mail.mil; provide complete name and last 4 SSN; provide the text of your Parent's posting above to YOUR email. The subject line of the email should be “Rog1010- SAF =DQ advice for adjustment disorder.“ Do NOT embed links in your email as I will not be able to view those.:wiggle:
 
Rog1010 said:
Hello, my son is 17 and has an LOA. He was DQ'd due to adjustment disorder. Due to COVID and isolation from school and friends during his junior winter, when he was 16, he felt isolated. His father and I have a therapist friend who talked with him, but he was never diagnosed formally by a doctor. He was never seen by a doctor. The "therapy" was to help him get through remote schooling due to COVID. We are heartbroken that our parenting decision and honest answers to the DoDMERB questions have resulted in his DQ. He has dreamed of attending the USMA, and is worried. He is waiting to hear if a waiver is requested. My question is this: is a waiver ever granted for a DQ due to an adjustment disorder?
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Dr. Mom is correct. Have DS respond to Mr. Mullen. I also tried to PM you but you don't have enough messages posted to receive a PM. I think you need 5.
 
My son was also just DQd for this today. He is applying to USAFA and AFROTC. I am confused by the DODMERB letter because it lists a single disqualification, but lists three items, which includes the adjustment disorder. One of the other items listed was that he was diagnosed with a stress fracture in the fall, but after 12 weeks of physical therapy (and an extension to take his CFA) he was cleared to return to normal activities in mid-Jan and took his CFA (assuming it was a pass since he never got an email that he needed to retake it).. I don’t know if he is considered a “competitive” candidate, if there is now even enough time in the process to get a waiver, or if I should be trying to get his additional medical records (we submitted therapist records because that is who he saw for about 8 months, but did not submit records from a dr who said that there was nothing clinically wrong him, just that he was feeling overwhelmed in freshman year of high school and that it may help for him to be able to talk to a non-parent adult).
 
MDParent2022 - APPLICANT SON: If you’d like, you may send me an email: lawrence.e.mullen.civ@mail.mil; provide complete name and last 4 SSN; provide the text of your Parent's posting above to YOUR email. The subject line of the email should be “MDParent2022- SAF =DQ advice for adjustment disorder.“ Do NOT embed links in your email as I will not be able to view those.:wiggle:
 
MDparent2022 said:
My son was also just DQd for this today. He is applying to USAFA and AFROTC. I am confused by the DODMERB letter because it lists a single disqualification, but lists three items, which includes the adjustment disorder. One of the other items listed was that he was diagnosed with a stress fracture in the fall, but after 12 weeks of physical therapy (and an extension to take his CFA) he was cleared to return to normal activities in mid-Jan and took his CFA (assuming it was a pass since he never got an email that he needed to retake it).. I don’t know if he is considered a “competitive” candidate, if there is now even enough time in the process to get a waiver, or if I should be trying to get his additional medical records (we submitted therapist records because that is who he saw for about 8 months, but did not submit records from a dr who said that there was nothing clinically wrong him, just that he was feeling overwhelmed in freshman year of high school and that it may help for him to be able to talk to a non-parent adult).
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I am just a mom here, not an expert. USAFA just waivered my distance runner DD's stress fracture (she was medically released for it in 5-21). I think the more time passed the better with a stress fracture. They processed her waiver very quickly. She is waiting on an appt. Good luck to your DS.
 
RunningMom = I already answered MDParent2022. Thx:wiggle:
 
A 16 year old is stuck in his house 24/7. No face to face with peers, only his parents. Zooms with disinterested teachers who are, themselves, miserable. No movies, games, malls, etc. The picture is clear. His mood changes and he is labeled "adjustment disorder." Will someone please tell me the normal response to his situation. Amnesty International might call it torture. And, having seen many kids who have had the same experience, I am close to agreeing. I'd be much more worried about the kids who do not respond this way. What's on their minds? A question: Doctors are told by their insurance carriers and lawyers that "if it's not in the chart, it didn't happen." OP's therapist has no record. Did it happen? Would it have been a lie not to report the diagnosis? Which to me, for what it's worth, is totally misapplied.
 
@MullenLE
Mr. Mullen;
I shared your contact information and the required items with an USMA applicant and her adviser---questions about a waiver.
I hope that is ok.
v/r
-tk
 
What???? You think I'd say no to the infamous....Dr Mom??? NEVER!!! She already outted you:wiggle:
 
Hockey10 said:
A 16 year old is stuck in his house 24/7. No face to face with peers, only his parents. Zooms with disinterested teachers who are, themselves, miserable. No movies, games, malls, etc. The picture is clear. His mood changes and he is labeled "adjustment disorder." Will someone please tell me the normal response to his situation. Amnesty International might call it torture. And, having seen many kids who have had the same experience, I am close to agreeing. I'd be much more worried about the kids who do not respond this way. What's on their minds? A question: Doctors are told by their insurance carriers and lawyers that "if it's not in the chart, it didn't happen." OP's therapist has no record. Did it happen? Would it have been a lie not to report the diagnosis? Which to me, for what it's worth, is totally misapplied.
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I have been helping one with some MEPS q/a, and the medical backup is absolutely brutal.

After reading the 1000+ pages of history we received to make sure we don't self or over diagnose, I am starting to wonder how the poor kid can function at all with all the noted conditions.
 
Our honor and privilege to serve:rockon:
 
Rog1010 said:
Hello, my son is 17 and has an LOA. He was DQ'd due to adjustment disorder. Due to COVID and isolation from school and friends during his junior winter, when he was 16, he felt isolated. His father and I have a therapist friend who talked with him, but he was never diagnosed formally by a doctor. He was never seen by a doctor. The "therapy" was to help him get through remote schooling due to COVID. We are heartbroken that our parenting decision and honest answers to the DoDMERB questions have resulted in his DQ. He has dreamed of attending the USMA, and is worried. He is waiting to hear if a waiver is requested. My question is this: is a waiver ever granted for a DQ due to an adjustment disorder?
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I received a disqualification code for this EXACT reason (therapy during COVID to cope with the isolation considered to be an adjustment disorder). However, I did get my medical waiver approved for AFROTC which means there is hope! Although, I am still waiting to hear back from the service academies about waivers.
 
MDparent2022 said:
My son was also just DQd for this today. He is applying to USAFA and AFROTC. I am confused by the DODMERB letter because it lists a single disqualification, but lists three items, which includes the adjustment disorder. One of the other items listed was that he was diagnosed with a stress fracture in the fall, but after 12 weeks of physical therapy (and an extension to take his CFA) he was cleared to return to normal activities in mid-Jan and took his CFA (assuming it was a pass since he never got an email that he needed to retake it).. I don’t know if he is considered a “competitive” candidate, if there is now even enough time in the process to get a waiver, or if I should be trying to get his additional medical records (we submitted therapist records because that is who he saw for about 8 months, but did not submit records from a dr who said that there was nothing clinically wrong him, just that he was feeling overwhelmed in freshman year of high school and that it may help for him to be able to talk to a non-parent adult).
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My son's waiver request was denied, but he wants to appeal the denial. He wants so badly to attend USMA and serve our country. He's forth in his class, captain of the hockey team, etc....do you know if waiver denials are ever overturned?
 
MullenLE said:
APPLICANT SON: If you’d like, you may send me an email: lawrence.e.mullen.civ@mail.mil; provide complete name and last 4 SSN; provide the text of your Parent's posting above to YOUR email. The subject line of the email should be “Rog1010- SAF =DQ advice for adjustment disorder.“ Do NOT embed links in your email as I will not be able to view those.:wiggle:
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Hello, my son is emailing you. Thank you,
 
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