Same boat here. Me thinks they have already denied DS, so why the wait? I'd have more respect if they just told us as soon as possible. Been waiting since November, checking many times everyday. I doubt anyone is fighting for him out there. 5 months to make a decision, DS is starting to think this was a mistake, doesn't want to be associated with an organization that operates like this.
I know this process is difficult. One takeaway I got from my DS's MOC board was that most of these young people have never experienced much failure in their youth. The reason they are even in a position to still be a candidate, is because they are some of the best in the country.
While it may seem cruel to be waiting, this is life. It's a teaching moment. He can learn from this experience, or be soured by it. I am sorry that he thinks that being associated with an "organization like operates like this" is a mistake..
Many good people work hard in this process.. Some of them spend many volunteer hours, such as ALO's to help young people get to this point..
Failure won't define him, but how he acts in the face of it in life will.. Eventually all of these young people will fail, after achieving so much in their short lives. I hope that your son finds a way to overcome his disappointments in life, without looking at it as a negative! Good luck to all that are still alive!!
@CB_Dad_5
Truth! Waiting is agony, but I'm thinking that it's harder for me than DS. As parents, we want our kids to have the most success possible and to reach their dreams. And if they don't get it, sometimes we hurt like it was us being rejected.
DS knows that getting this far is an huge accomplishment, and is proud of that. I can only imagine how hard the admissions team works, and how many candidates are declined that they really, really wanted to accept.
I have told my sons for years that they need to fail, and embrace it. Failure doesn't define them, but how they respond does. Do they hang their head and cave inwards? Or do they look inside for how they can improve and do better next time? It's strange to say 'my DS is good at failure', but he is. And he learns from it. He's moving forward and making the commitment to Plan B school and AFROTC.
He's not giving up, he will get to the same destination, but the journey will be a little different.
Best of luck to all!