Fingers crossed you don’t do that.
Both of my boys went in with a relationship, certain they would marry. One did, one got dumped. Moral of the story, is you just don’t know which bucket you will end up in. If it’s the later (dumped), will you be OK with giving up on your dreams? No significant other and no Commission??
10000000 pct, if you are meant to be, you will be. Is it hard? Maybe. But its also something that will strengthen your relationship in ways you cannot imagine.
If your significant other is ‘demanding’ you leave, or else they will? That’s a red flag of an unhealthy relationship. You didn’t ask for that, but it’s a truth. Perhaps your SO is suggesting they cannot handle the military lifestyle. But that also will come into focus over these next years. Perhaps they can and just dont know it yet.
Neither of you will be the same person in four years. A lot of growth and change happens these first young adult years. It seems tragic to me, to toss away a 4yr opportunity of a lifetime for a person who may or may not be there at the end.
BTW…not military, but DH and I married young, and lived apart for our first couple years. He had internships to complete and I had job responsibilities that kept us in different states. No internet, no iPhones. We will be celebrating 37 yrs of wedded bliss in a few months.
It takes a commitment to, and work towards, your future. Someday these few years won’t matter one bit. But the life you have built for yourself by taking advantage of opportunities before you, will. A mature relationship will make it through the hard times, working towards that common goal.
Best wishes to you!!