This thread is soooooooooooo spot on with everything I am reading. My AFROTC son had his PPL, so did not have to go to IFT.
I had a friend who's son dropped UPT just a few flights after his dollar ride. He did not care for flying at all.
UPT is going to have tons of struggles. I think these LT's are in shock with that as they are so smart, driven, possibly "learning" had come kind of easy, and all of a sudden it's like hitting a brick wall......CLIMB IT!!!! My son is a very calm person and has never shown us stress......until UPT. The academics were not bad. Lots of memorization. Went on the dollar ride and was air sick at the end because they were maneuvering and not just fly straight. Poor kid had to go in the Barany chair 3x to overcome it. But he wanted to fly, so didn't quit but the fighter path was no longer in his thoughts. He did his share of hooking a ride, most all do. But you learn, overcome and perfect it!
My son is doing his final check ride and is off to his base after SERE to be a Moose Driver. After UPT struggles he went T-1, it was so much more relaxed. Now at Altus, it's even MORE relaxed. There is a reason for the IFT/UPT madness.
All the best to the ones in IFT/UPT, starting this journey. It does get better after those wings are pinned.