making big decisions


New Member
Jan 3, 2024
These forums often have threads from young people offered appointments asking for advice on whether to accept the appointment or pursue a civilian college/career. I think a lot of times the real question being asked isn't "USAFA v. Duke" or "USNA v. Stanford" but is "how do I make a such a big decision?"

My advice has boiled down to suggesting that the person spend a day contemplating one choice, spend a day contemplating the other choice, and then choose the one that is most challenging.

I've been wishing that I added that the poster should ask trusted adults how they make major, life-changing decisions. With that in mind -- how do you go about making a big decision?
Personally, I am an information junkie. I love to do research, gather all relevant information and also search out real-life feedback from those who have "been there/done that," whether that be an online article, YouTube video or actual IRL conversation. I hate making big decisions without feeling as though I have a very thorough understanding of my options, potential consequences, etc.

Beyond that, prayer. I realize faith is a very personal matter, but I do not want to see myself, my spouse or my kids walking a path outside of God's leading.

BTW, this is a great topic. I am sure you will get a lot of thoughtful responses.
I seek input from people who have ‘been there, done that’ (many of you are the victims of that 😂). I also bounce it off of people I trust, who know me well. My strengths and weaknesses. Then I think about each option for a long time. Pros and cons. How my choice affects those I care about. I pray, too.

And then, eventually, decide. I need time to get comfortable with a choice.