This is a great thread. I wanted to chime in on my take on I-day and parents/family as a former cadet, from a totally non-military family that said goodbye at the airport in Oregon and did the bed and breakfast program.
I-day is tough, not only is it often the first time being away from home for a long time, but the stress level is cranked times 1000 because of the prospect of basic. I was sooooo glad I said goodbye to my family at the airport. Everyone came (including my best friend), we went early, had a nice breakfast at the airport and then we said goodbye and I was on my own. My mom was definitely holding back some serious tears and it made it really tough for me. I can't imagine trying to do that goodbye and then dive right into I-day. I needed the day to get my head straight and the bed and breakfast program was perfect for that. I was focused, ready and past my goodbyes by the time I arrived at USAFA on I-day and it meant I was way less stressed. Every kid is different, but I highly encourage everyone to at least have the discussion. If you are a particularly emotional parent (first or last kid to college, first-time military family, or just know you are going to lose it) you may want to consider encouraging an airport goodbye. Sure you probably want that extra day, but it may not be the best choice. Also, if it's a choice between flying out for A-day or I-day, I'd say A-day every time. My family couldn't make it that day and it was hard. I was "adopted" by one of the other families and still had a good lunch, but I really just wanted a hug from my mom (I know, cheesy, but so true).