Gaia ... We had the unfortunate situation of having to notify our daughter at NAPS that one of her grandparents had passed away and to get her home on emergency leave. The staff up there is wonderful and if you need the chaplain on the base to go over and be there then he will gladly do that.
Motherly advice here is to let her know if something happens. They are very much adults and will want to be kept in the loop as to how things are going. They learn very quickly to compartmentalize things and can handle it much easier if they know what is happening. If you would like to talk more about this privately, please do not hesitate to message me and I will tell you more about our story regarding this.