- Joined
- Mar 14, 2014
- Messages
- 6,848
Agree with @EOD/SEALmom. First follow your local chain of command. If the results are unsatifactory, then you should use the HQ contacts.
Thank you for your advice,This is not the best forum to find your answers. However I am a parent of three kids in USNSCC (one has graduated). My advice is to let your daughter follow her chain of command to air her grievances. Is the other cadet they chose for color guard better at it? It is a competitive spot to be chosen. Also, is it possible she has not completed all the homework required to be promoted? It is not based just on time in the unit or attending trainings, but on lots of work involved.
It also sounds as though she is having personal issues with the other cadet. This could be due to typical teen drama, but it can be a great learning experience for your daughter on how to deal with people in a professional way. She needs to learn how to cope, and how to listen to what could be constructive criticism. Even if the other cadet is totally off-base, if your daughter can conduct herself in a professional way (and "not stoop to the level" of another), it will make her stand out as the better cadet.
I would not advise you that you (parent), get involved. There is a chain of command that she should follow.
Thank you, she already tried but was told by the Chief that whatever the CO said that goes.Agree with @EOD/SEALmom. First follow your local chain of command. If the results are unsatifactory, then you should use the HQ contacts.
Thank you so much for your advice.Letting her handle it, while you listen to your daughter is the best way to handle it. Your daughter would be looked down upon if you get involved. Your role is a background support. I mean that in the nicest way. Part of the Sea Cadet program is to teach kids to empower themselves. This is a great opportunity for her to learn some things, such as speaking up for herself, following a chain of command, etc.
She should start with her CO, and if she does not get good answers, then she continues up the chain of command. She will learn how to be her own best advocate, and it's possible that she may learn some constructive criticism on what she needs to improve upon for the future.
You can help her by teaching her to hold emotions back while she follows protocol (for instance - if she doesn't like what criticism they give her, tell her to only vent it to you later at home). Help her learn to listen, and to really ponder what feedback her chain of command gives her.
Back to the OP's question, I agree about time-management and using the available time wisely. If you are spending an excessive amount of time in meetings and doing busy-work, you have to step back and look at the bigger picture. Do those tasks actually accomplish something and could you explain to your BGO or MOC interview team how you contributed to the success of those groups? If not, then you need to reassess your activities that are more in line with your goals.
Your competition for an appointment are those who are able to excel in several areas such as academics, leadership, ECA's and sports. No one activity is the golden ticket to getting an appointment.
Thank you so much for your advice.
I deeply appreciate it.
I NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE!
Her CO informed me that she would not be promoted because her attitude and disrespectful. .
Thank you so much for the advice. She was promoted after she has a conversation with her CO and finding out who was the other cadet who spread out rumors.I'd also like to point out that in the USNSCC, a bad attitude and being disrespectful is absolutely a way to not get promoted. Yes, they can - and will - not promote until the attitude and disrespect is corrected.
I know it has been years, but were you able to find a solution for your daughter's issue? Was she able to eventually make Chief?Thank you so much for your advice.
I deeply appreciate it.
I know it has been years, but were you able to find a solution for your daughter's issue? Was she able to eventually make Chief?
Oh, hahaLast seen November 2016.