I received this from a friend when DS departed for AFA. It applies to all SA.
I do not know who the actual author is.
#4 is what pertains to this thread, but all of it is good reading.
From Someone's Very Wise Mother
1. If AFA is not for you, you have a home to come to if you leave. I will
still love you and be as proud of you as I am today. However, you must not
leave on a bad day, but a good one, and you must have a plan for your future
education along with the means to support it so that you can realize your
dreams. This should never be a frivolous decision because you have discovered
all the 'crap' you have to deal with. Each day is different and has it stresses
and fun.
2. AFA has dealt with its share of scandals in the past few years, and many of
the problems have stemmed from cadets drinking, both under aged and legally. I
would want my son to understand that a bottle of beer or one too many, could end
his dreams and it is never going to be worth it. Don't break my heart and
destroy what you have been blessed with over alcohol.
3. Life is not fair in the civilian world, and it seems more unfair in the
military world, but don't ever let that deter you from your goals. You make
things work for you and learn to suck up the stupid stuff.
4. The right girl for you will stick with you through thick and thin and
support your choice as a cadet and be tolerant of what you have to deal with.
The wrong girl will ask you to give it all up for her with no regard for your
ambitions.
5. No matter what your peers do, it is up to you to make the right choice for
yourself. Peer pressure is an excuse for the weak and you are in a leadership
laboratory. Remember that.
6. It's so much easier to follow the rules than it is to sweat getting caught
if you break them, and not be able to concentrate on the important things in
your present. BTW, you WILL get caught.
7. Academics come first and foremost. You are there for the education, not to
become the world's greatest boot shiner. Do everything to the best of your
ability, but know the priorities for success at AFA.
8. Time management is the best skill anyone can have, and it is one you must
master at AFA, because they will stress you with too much to do in too little
time. Each day seems to take forever, but the years fly by.
9. Keep in touch with your family. I would love to get one or two minutes of
your free time each week just to hear your voice.
10. Be honest with me about what is happening for you. If you are stressed,
having academic problems, need to vent, or whatever, I love you and will be
there for you always. I will do all I can to help, even if it is just to listen
to you rant.