The Day

2020PrdPop

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I've been thinking about writing this post since last summer. My DS had a very long wait for his appointment. CVW, NASS, No LOA, Recruited Athlete, weekly coach calls, medical DQ, testing, medical waiver, nomination interviews, the "no blue chip because you will get in on your own" coach call, 3 MOC nominations, high school friend got USNA appointment, other high school friend got USMA appointment, CPR island forever, wait listed, finally...The Day came in late April.

I lurked this forum all the while, looking for advice, watching as other DS/DD's got the good news, trying to understand the system, joining other parents in waiting for that CPR to change, reading the disappointment and anguish of parents after the TWE rejection of highly qualified applicants (April is a tough month), reading snarky comments of how the system is somehow rigged (OMG), thankful for wise advice of the moderators (thanks NavyHoops), finally making my first post announcing my DS's appointment.

This is what I learned. I wasted a lot of time worrying (maybe obsessing) about a process that's a black box, there is no magic formula; The process is not a judgment of your DS/DD, if they applied they are pretty special and will be successful in what ever they chose to do; There are only so many spots....it's pretty random, so just support your kid, encourage them to enjoy the ride, plan B is pretty darn good; Stop checking the portal, your kid will get a call or email before you will see the CPR change; When the TWE arrives, be sad for a moment, hug your kid, plan B is now Plan A and it will be awesome. The Day will come.

Getting too involved in the hopes and dreams of your DS/DD can be a slippery slope, so trust me, keep a safe distance....after all, it's their life to live....

The Day did come. The Reps office called him at school. I will never forget when DS called to tell me the news. It was worth the wait, USNA is a special place. Now, every chance I get, I proudly yell....

GO NAVY beat ARMY
 
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I've been thinking about writing this post since last summer. My DS had a very long wait for his appointment. CVW, NASS, No LOA, Recruited Athlete, weekly coach calls, medical DQ, testing, medical waiver, nomination interviews, the "no blue chip because you will get in on your own" coach call, 3 MOC nominations, high school friend got USNA appointment, other high school friend got USMA appointment, CPR island forever, wait listed, finally...The Day came in late April.

I lurked this forum all the while, looking for advice, watching as other DS/DD's got the good news, trying to understand the system, joining other parents in waiting for that CPR to change, reading the disappointment and anguish of parents after the TWE rejection of highly qualified applicants (April is a tough month), reading snarky comments of how the system is somehow rigged (OMG), thankful for wise advice of the moderators (thanks NavyHoops), finally making my first post announcing my DS's appointment.

This is what I learned. I wasted a lot of time worrying (maybe obsessing) about a process that's a black box, there is no magic formula; The process is not a judgment of your DS/DD, if they applied they are pretty special and will be successful in what ever they chose to do; There are only so many spots....it's pretty random, so just support your kid, encourage them to enjoy the ride, plan B is pretty darn good; Stop checking the portal, your kid will get a call or email before you will see the CPR change; When the TWE arrives, be sad for a moment, hug your kid, plan B is now Plan A and it will be awesome. The Day will come.

Getting too involved in the hopes and dreams of your DS/DD can be a slippery slope, so trust me, keep a safe distance....after all, it's their life to live....

The Day did come. The Reps office called him at school. I will never forget when DS called to tell me the news. It was worth the wait, USNA is a special place. Now, every chance I get, I proudly yell....

GO NAVY beat ARMY
Great post. Just what I needed. The portal checks have definitely slowed down (thanks to some GREAT advice from this forum) and the all mighty "Appointment" is taking a back seat in my brain these days. Maybe this is a test of OUR patience; my DS is calm, cool and collected. He's busy with his Senior year of Varsity swimming, getting ready for the AP exams and having fun with his friends and girlfriend - and that's the way it should be. I love what you said about the caliber of these/our kids/YOU (you "Selfs") who even have the guts to begin this grueling process. No matter what. USNA or USCGA or not - my DS is a winner and WILL be a success no matter what path he takes to get there.

Appointment or no appointment, I will always proudly yell GO NAVY beat ARMY!
 

majorwife97

Parent
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I've been thinking about writing this post since last summer. My DS had a very long wait for his appointment. CVW, NASS, No LOA, Recruited Athlete, weekly coach calls, medical DQ, testing, medical waiver, nomination interviews, the "no blue chip because you will get in on your own" coach call, 3 MOC nominations, high school friend got USNA appointment, other high school friend got USMA appointment, CPR island forever, wait listed, finally...The Day came in late April.

I lurked this forum all the while, looking for advice, watching as other DS/DD's got the good news, trying to understand the system, joining other parents in waiting for that CPR to change, reading the disappointment and anguish of parents after the TWE rejection of highly qualified applicants (April is a tough month), reading snarky comments of how the system is somehow rigged (OMG), thankful for wise advice of the moderators (thanks NavyHoops), finally making my first post announcing my DS's appointment.

This is what I learned. I wasted a lot of time worrying (maybe obsessing) about a process that's a black box, there is no magic formula; The process is not a judgment of your DS/DD, if they applied they are pretty special and will be successful in what ever they chose to do; There are only so many spots....it's pretty random, so just support your kid, encourage them to enjoy the ride, plan B is pretty darn good; Stop checking the portal, your kid will get a call or email before you will see the CPR change; When the TWE arrives, be sad for a moment, hug your kid, plan B is now Plan A and it will be awesome. The Day will come.

Getting too involved in the hopes and dreams of your DS/DD can be a slippery slope, so trust me, keep a safe distance....after all, it's their life to live....

The Day did come. The Reps office called him at school. I will never forget when DS called to tell me the news. It was worth the wait, USNA is a special place. Now, every chance I get, I proudly yell....

GO NAVY beat ARMY

Wow, I don't think you could have explained this any better. The constant worrying as a mother about this decision is making me CRAZY!
I've been thinking about writing this post since last summer. My DS had a very long wait for his appointment. CVW, NASS, No LOA, Recruited Athlete, weekly coach calls, medical DQ, testing, medical waiver, nomination interviews, the "no blue chip because you will get in on your own" coach call, 3 MOC nominations, high school friend got USNA appointment, other high school friend got USMA appointment, CPR island forever, wait listed, finally...The Day came in late April.

I lurked this forum all the while, looking for advice, watching as other DS/DD's got the good news, trying to understand the system, joining other parents in waiting for that CPR to change, reading the disappointment and anguish of parents after the TWE rejection of highly qualified applicants (April is a tough month), reading snarky comments of how the system is somehow rigged (OMG), thankful for wise advice of the moderators (thanks NavyHoops), finally making my first post announcing my DS's appointment.

This is what I learned. I wasted a lot of time worrying (maybe obsessing) about a process that's a black box, there is no magic formula; The process is not a judgment of your DS/DD, if they applied they are pretty special and will be successful in what ever they chose to do; There are only so many spots....it's pretty random, so just support your kid, encourage them to enjoy the ride, plan B is pretty darn good; Stop checking the portal, your kid will get a call or email before you will see the CPR change; When the TWE arrives, be sad for a moment, hug your kid, plan B is now Plan A and it will be awesome. The Day will come.

Getting too involved in the hopes and dreams of your DS/DD can be a slippery slope, so trust me, keep a safe distance....after all, it's their life to live....

The Day did come. The Reps office called him at school. I will never forget when DS called to tell me the news. It was worth the wait, USNA is a special place. Now, every chance I get, I proudly yell....

GO NAVY beat ARMY
I've been thinking about writing this post since last summer. My DS had a very long wait for his appointment. CVW, NASS, No LOA, Recruited Athlete, weekly coach calls, medical DQ, testing, medical waiver, nomination interviews, the "no blue chip because you will get in on your own" coach call, 3 MOC nominations, high school friend got USNA appointment, other high school friend got USMA appointment, CPR island forever, wait listed, finally...The Day came in late April.

I lurked this forum all the while, looking for advice, watching as other DS/DD's got the good news, trying to understand the system, joining other parents in waiting for that CPR to change, reading the disappointment and anguish of parents after the TWE rejection of highly qualified applicants (April is a tough month), reading snarky comments of how the system is somehow rigged (OMG), thankful for wise advice of the moderators (thanks NavyHoops), finally making my first post announcing my DS's appointment.

This is what I learned. I wasted a lot of time worrying (maybe obsessing) about a process that's a black box, there is no magic formula; The process is not a judgment of your DS/DD, if they applied they are pretty special and will be successful in what ever they chose to do; There are only so many spots....it's pretty random, so just support your kid, encourage them to enjoy the ride, plan B is pretty darn good; Stop checking the portal, your kid will get a call or email before you will see the CPR change; When the TWE arrives, be sad for a moment, hug your kid, plan B is now Plan A and it will be awesome. The Day will come.

Getting too involved in the hopes and dreams of your DS/DD can be a slippery slope, so trust me, keep a safe distance....after all, it's their life to live....

The Day did come. The Reps office called him at school. I will never forget when DS called to tell me the news. It was worth the wait, USNA is a special place. Now, every chance I get, I proudly yell....

GO NAVY beat ARMY
Well, this is the post that I needed to read. I'm driving myself crazy with worry and constantly checking this forum. Thank you so much for your well written words that helped me more than you know. My husband has been saying the same exact thing, but sometimes it takes hearing it from someone else to make me listen. Congratulations to your DS and to you as his dad! :)
 

fearthegoat17

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Jan 27, 2017
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Thank you for this post. This wait for a decision is very very hard. I'm not going to check my portal and forums multiple times every single day. I've done my best and tried as hard as I can for this 2nd app, so now I will continue on with my schoolwork and sports and wait for my Day to come. For better or for worse.
 

Norfolk63

BGO and MidDad
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Messages
457
Excellent post 2020!
One small footnote: The process is in reality a 2-year application process for many applicants. My DS was in the exact same boat last year, put on the Wait List, but never got the call. But DS knew this was a 2-year process. So, he accepted plan B college + NROTC and re-applied to USNA. And he received his Appointment on Feb 3rd. Why is it a 2-year process? According to a very informative session at CVW at USNA, Congress will not allow a MIDN to stay past four years. And since most NROTC engineering students require a 9th or sometimes a 10th semester to graduate, the problem of trying to squeeze 9 or 10 semesters of rigorous study into 8 at USNA is the problem.
 
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